I learned this morning that she ditched her IC appt. yesterday. So is this the beginning of the end of C for her? The experts say that some bail out of therapy when it starts getting too personal and the patient can't handle the truth of their inner demons. IC is probably starting to disagree with her lifestyle choices. But of course, it's all just supposition on my part.
Don't really care. Pushing on with my life for me and the kids.
That's a shame! I think for our Rs or Ms to ever work our WAS have to get IC prob. long-term for most of them!!! Not your problem. I think so too about giving up when they disagree. My H is the same. He goes in and has told me he lies to the Cs and tries to make himself look good. I think either the therapist kind of go along with their made-up stuff or if/when they realize and disagree in some way, then they're out the door. I'm thinking with an attitude like that they must not really want help or change, or they wouldn't be like that. And nothing you can do about that. Yeah, best to focus on you and your kids. It can drive you crazy to focus on the WAS!!!! (I know from personal experience of course!!!) Karen
I have the opposite rite now. My W goes to IC every 2 weeks and goes to MC with me. She has told the MC....I am not here to save my M only to work on us for the kids. She has told me she likes the MC! Figure that out!
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
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Carp, that's a hard one to figure out. I was also advised not to attempt MC while there is an active A or since my W is searching for another A.
Karen, my IC told me that a good IC can see through a patient's BS, so my guess is his IC is on to him. she's only skipped one; I could be over-reacting. Her last session was about shame; I got to see what her homework was about.
I know that they say you don't believe anything the WAS says and only half of what you see.
Well, in her e-mail she describes to a professor of her online course that she is going through a really nasty divorce and had to buy a new PC. Therefore, her current assignment is on a laptop that was in the car and was cold. As soon as it came up to room temperature, she would e-mail her assignment.
Lie #1: There are no D proceedings that have started by my knowledge. We are barely separated as she is still in the house.
Lie #2: She didn't buy any PC. She can't save money to save her life.
Now I'm wondering if she is envisioning a nasty divorce or if it was just a tactic to gain favor from the professor? Professor is female.
Hi marriedCrazy. Just stopped over to catch up on your sitch. I just started to read some of your backstory. What I see from the posts I have read you are a very patient person. Not sure I could endure what you have so far - but I find my limits for endurance have surpassed my expectations - and see so many others here who have done the same.
Just wanted to give you a wave and thank you for stopping over at my thread.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
Now I'm wondering if she is envisioning a nasty divorce or if it was just a tactic to gain favor from the professor? Professor is female.
I would say it's probably this one. When I was a drunk in college I was often irresponsible about getting work done. I had mono, my grandmother died 4 times, got hit by a car, etc...
All BS to catch a break and get enabled for my irresponsibility. The funny thing is I never felt bad about spewing this BS. Wasn't till I got sober that I really realized what I was doing.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
I know that they say you don't believe anything the WAS says and only half of what you see.
Well, in her e-mail she describes to a professor of her online course that she is going through a really nasty divorce and had to buy a new PC. Therefore, her current assignment is on a laptop that was in the car and was cold. As soon as it came up to room temperature, she would e-mail her assignment.
Lie #1: There are no D proceedings that have started by my knowledge. We are barely separated as she is still in the house.
Lie #2: She didn't buy any PC. She can't save money to save her life.
Now I'm wondering if she is envisioning a nasty divorce or if it was just a tactic to gain favor from the professor? Professor is female.
Tom, has she always been a pathological liar? Or just when she's back drinking?
hey tom, just stopping by to tell ya I love ya, and just be the kick arse daddy you are! I pray for ya'll every day, and you know I am always here for you. be strong, love those kiddos from the itty bitty girlie in ks for me k? prayers, hugs and love Traci
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Steady, thanks for stopping by. I try to have the patience of Job. Not sure who it's for these days; but I'll use for me and the kids.
Carp. Ya know, I figure it's just that; but it can still rattle the cage.
BW, She has been lying since the day I met her. She will fabricate a story to make sure she gets what she wants or to hide what she doesn't want someone else to know. Drinking or sober, it really doesn't matter.
BG, love ya girl. I pray for all of us every night. One day at a time, sis. I'm still trying to decide if I'm up for the Love Dare or not.
