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I had a daydream on the way to work that I would just drive past work, drive all the way to Idaho and just ask you to hug me and let me cry for a while....

You are a good brother I just wish you were closer.

My shoulder is yours.

(((((((BobbiJo)))))))

Oh, boy! Get busy for a weekend, and miss all the fun!

It seems that you H is projecting everything he doesn't like about anything onto you.... been there! He is still lost and confused.... he doesn't know what he want, let alone how to get there.

The incident about putting the kids to bed really gets me! Having gone through 4 two year olds, I remember that they don't tell time really well! You can plan, and schedule all you want, but they don't have to follow it! It just isn't worth getting angry over!

I hope your mom is ok, the eye injury sounds pretty bad.

You've always got a shoulder here, too!

Thanks guys. I hope to someday have a man in real life who will support me the way you guys do. But I won't go there until my kids are all grown up, it is just the way I feel about it...

Cross that bridge when you get to it BobbiJo!

I can see why you feel that way now, for sure.

Yeah, tell me about it... Bbj, what can i say? I had this punching on the walls before, 3 months before the bomb. My stbxH stopped that after I told him I would kick him out if he was to do it in front of the kids again... But he knew he was upset for other reasons and managed to control these outbursts very soon.

What bothers me is that you end up justifying your self and being defensive all the time. How long do you think you could keep this up? What is it that you havent used with Dan? In Retro, did you miss anything? I mean, forgot. Is he one of those macho guys that never admit they are wrong?

I dont know. I admire you for how you stand. And you have a smaller shoulder here too. Always.
K

I am home on lunch and I am crying. I walked over 2 sets of Hs cowboy boots on the stairs. He has left me in his mind, but physically he is everywhere........I feel dumb for crying, I know this is not working but I am so sad to let it go...........and yet I don't see what else I can do. Ultimately H will have to sell off some of his farm stuff to pay for the D, so he will lose his farm dream (for now anyway) and I will lose my dream of a life w/H and my kids as a family. The kids will lose their mom and dad being together. Where is the winner?

We cross posted...

Hey, crying is OK. I spent almost all night crying. My eyes look greener today...

You know there is no winner. He cant see the bigger picture. He is too selfish and IMO stuck. He doesnt know what to do. He could use a "solid' person, a mentor by him. He cant do it alone. Woog says IC, I agree.

You ll be fine darling. You are strong and will make it. One way or the other. Regroup....
xxxx
K

BBJ I am so sorry about these new developements. I cam here today to respond to what you wrote over the weekend about you being the cause of him not getting to buy the farm he wanted. it may be a moot point now, but if I am not mistaken you have also mentioned an earlier A and at least one 1 night stand, right? What did you do to cause those?

Don't you see these problems lie with your H, not what you have done to cause his misery.

Someone above mentioned the LRT, maybe you should try that.

Best of luck to you...

(((((BobbiJo)))))