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I also told him that we were having such a good time that I really didn't realize what time it was. I don't know if he cared to hear that, but it's the truth.

It seems that the lateness bothered him, so I guess he must care a bit. Earlier this summer he was pushing me to go out. He would often say that I should be looking around for someone who would treat me better. And when I came home he would usually ask if I had met someone new yet? What???? Just a sample of the craziness that came from him.

I, like you was excited when I started reading about depression. But my H, like yours will not go and talk to anyone or agree to take meds. At least 2 of his brothers that I know of are on AD's but he won't consider it. I guess, one step and one day at a time.

I am at home, relaxed in my sweats and enjoying a good glass of Cabernet. I took care of the dog and turned the furnace on. It is still raining and very icky outside.

H was at the bar when I drove home, no call from him all day today and certainly nothing since I've been home. So much for our talk last week about the fast crowd he has been running with. Guess that fell apart when I followed him to the Pub Friday night.

I really thought he would want to test drive the new truck tonight. Maybe just as well. As long as he is in this tail spin I don't want to add any debt.

I agree about not adding any debt. Especially with the economy. It sounds like your H is still in the early stages of all of this. Up and down. I'm hoping mine is sort of coming to the end of it. Guess what, I looked up his natal chart, something I haven't done before cuz I haven't wanted to know too much, and it indicates he will have a MLC for the very reasons he has told me. I almost choked on my gum LOL.

Don't worry about your talk not affecting him. It does. He heard you. Just not ready to process it yet. My H looked at me for the first time in I don't know how long last week and couldn't believe how much weight I've lost which tells me that he hasn't looked at me in a long time. Because it has taken over a year.

Just keep smiling.

1hope,

Enjoy your quiet time, and relaxing in front of the game. I need to work on some homework stuff, but I have been looking through some magazines! Not very studious, but this morning at work I had to finish my mid term, as it had to be submitted by noon Eastern. I didn't get it done last night was tired, and tried to work at about 3:00 this morning, and that didn't work to well either.

Maybe tomorrow your weather will be better for test driving! I understand not wanting to add any debt. I don't like to drive my car on bad roads as I live 30 miles from work. I always take H's truck or jeep when it is bad. Should really think about trading for something else, either FWD or 4WD.

Hope your H is feeling good when he gets home, if not I know you will not let his emotions get to you! Enjoy your evening!

It is hard to believe that they can live around and with you and not notice significant appearance changes. Or they chose not to notice.

I think it is part of the fog. Two days after noticing that about me, he commented on one of my clients getting fat and he sees her at least once a week too.

1hope,
Just checking to see how your evening was?

Morning friends,

I survived last evening. Never heard from H at all. Woke up at some point close to midnight and he was in bed with me. Woke up again at 2 and he was getting out of bed to go down and watch tv.The wine and hot tub before bed usually make me sleep like a baby. I also had a quiet little feeling sorry for myself cry that helped too.

This morning I did not jump right out of bed, in fact, when I got my coffee I brought it back to bed with me to relax for an extra few minutes.

When H finally got up he was whining because I had not woken him up. I was out of the shower at that point and drying my hair. He waid, well aren't you going to help with my lunch today? I just looked at him and said, "you want me to help you with your lunch?... I didn't think you were going to work today, you were out so late last night." You know, it's just common courtsey, I had no idea where you were or what was happening. A call wold have been good. He said if I call you bitch at me. I said yes, I used to, I don't any more.

He looked terrible. His eyes were swolen and bloodshot, and I would imagine he probably has a nasty headache. He said yes, I am going to work. I just went about getting myself ready.

A little later I asked him if he could quickly put another hole in a belt that I was wanting to wear... needed another inch in from the last notch He said he would do it if I would help him make his lunch. I smiled and said sure.

I packed a nice lunch for him and he fixed my belt. He told me that one of his brothers had called him about a position that was going to be opening in his company, and h talked a bit about that. It would be a good job, but would require some travel, which he hates. I said it sounds like a good opportunity and I asked if he would be layed off during the winter. He said no. Hmmm. Guess he now has something else on his mind.

As he was going out the door he said will you be home tonight? I said, H I come home every night. He said, well do you want to have the steaks for dinner (that he took out of the freezer on Saturday and we had planned to have last night?) I said, "if they're still good."

This is all so hard to understand. My H used to notice every little thing about me. He would always, always give me some sort of a comment about what I was wearing, or my hair, before I went out the door each morning. Not only does he not do that any more, I don't think he even sees me most of the time!

It truly is a fog.

My MIL also called me last night. She see that I was home by myself. She asked where the Turkey was. I said guess. She said "at the bar."

So we talked for a bit, and she said that I should be ready for things to get worse before they get better, but to hang in there. She also said that if I have had enought I should just kick his a$$ out. His own mother! Hmmm.

I wish you were closer to KS or I was closer to MI so we could do some GALing together!!! I think we would have a blast!

I understand so much of what you say on your H noticing stuff, I think my H notices sometimes but he choses not to say anything so he doesn't get my hopes up. On Friday I had on a skirt and my black cowboy boots, something I have never done before. Didn't really think I could pull off the boots and a skirt, but I figured what the Hell and did it. I saw him when he got home look me up and down, but not a word!! LOL.

Hopefully he will be home for the steaks tonight!
Seems like you a got a bit of a compromise from your H this morning, with the lunch and the belt. I always wake my H up too.