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You know I'm speaking from my own life experience, when I say that you have to stop being so nice!!! Sorry that your W is sick, but hey consequences. I think you should have said You're welcome to join me in our bed or you can sleep downstairs whatever you prefer. She's the WAS and you gave up your bed!!! That sucks!!! But I know you already know that, so I won't bring out the 2x4s...unless you do that again!!! Karen

((Lost)) there is nothing wrong with being a gentleman, but when the cold is over...take it back and make it yours. Especially if she has interior designers over, you should do this as it sends a clear message that YOU aren't going ANYWHERE.

Sorry about your PMA but know you are an Acqua man and so we KNOW you smell good!

WHY ARE YOU SO FRICKIN NICE? because you are a good man, who loves his W in spite of herself. Don't beat yourself up over it. Dust yourself off and move forward.

((((((Hugs))))))))

this is an example of kindness on your part. Nothing more. Think of it as a case of 'what would Jesus do?'

Jesus would give the bed to the pauper.

Keep it in perspective my friend. You did a good thing, a Jesus like thing for a poor, sick, homeless woman. Not your W. A needy person.

I'm proud of you.

You did fine. It's easy to beat yourself up about it. It's the nice thing. I probably would have done the same. I would probably do it even now. I mean, like take her some soup or something if she was sick. You KNOW I would be beating myself up too.

When she's better, just get back into bed. Don't ask.

Thanks all. Actually slept not bad on the recliner.

W sounded better as she was yelling for the K's to get up today, so may just be a one day thing.



((((S&S))))
Damn you knew what to say there!



((((Karen))))
I struggled with this for a bit. I wish I could say it won't happen again, but even this morning I said "Hope you feel better today" as I was leaving for work. May have to borrow S13's hockey helmet next time to prepare for the 2x4's! Either that or best 2 out of 3 wreslting in the chocolate pit...


Frank and H4H,

Thanks guys. Like I said to Karen, I striggled for a bit but gave in. Heck, damn thing is that she really is sick and despite what she says (words after all), I do give a $hit when people are not healthy (yes, even W). I have tried to stick to the right thing and I believe this fit that.

And H4H, I WILL just be crawling back in...

You've answered your own question. And it's GOOD that she asked you; again . . . respect.

Puppy

I don't see anything wrong with how you handled that.

Nope, you did fine. Remember: to thine own self be true.

Question for Puppy... and of course anyone else that would like to comment - the more the merrier!

you made a comment in TnGuy's thread about your W asking why you were still fighting for her. Were you doing something in particular? I want to make sure I am doing what I can for me and the K's, but is my not leaving and being there showing my W in some small way that I am fighting for her?

Just curious...

Hi again. Just a note from supper. All sit down to eat. D11 starts talking about a pep rally at school. I am doing some active listening - something that W always said I didn't do (talking to a brick wall she called it). So once I do the old "mm hmm" and what does W do? She mimicks me!

I just about bust a gut. Then after I thought - know what, she noticed. Not dwelling on it. But it just is.

She is leaving for her vacation next week. I am looking forward to that in some ways.