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Our district is quite PC (politically correct).

Last year there was nothing about Columbus but it was referred to as a Fall Break day.

The kids were telling me about this the other day because their history teachers said they cannot refer to it as Columbus Day. The teachers even admitted they thought it was ridiculous.

Glad you had a good day with your h. I hope your h comes to his senses soon and just comes home.

You are so strong MWG. I know how hard it is to do this each and every day.

MWG,
It sounds like things are slowly but surely improving. That friend of your son's is gone and no longer causing havoc, your son is better behaved, you have a job, and your H is showing signs of getting closer to you. All good!

Hope things continue to improve! I agree with Glam, you are so strong to just keep DBing on and on every day... You are one of my heroes!

Peace,
Dawn

sorry i have to blow off some steam

it is after 1AM and S has two friends here and one of those is the guy who used to live here.

i said nobody is to be here at this hour and told them they had to leave. they all sit on their butts and did not move. finally S said he was driving them home. the one who used to live here now lives at least 15 miles north of here. i said this was not acceptable to drive him there at this hour.

am i wrong?

S said he is an adult and can do what he wants and i told him if he was living in his own place and had his own car yes but not in my car and while in my house.

finally they all left. when i have to get up and go to work in the morning, this really gets on my nerves as well.

MWG,
I wondered what you were doing up so early, posting on my thread!

I don't blame you for getting upset. That doesn't seem like an acceptable thing for your S and his friends to do. On the other hand, I imagine it will take some adjustment if your S is used to being up and having his friend(s) there at all hours, as I guess was the sitch before his friend moved out. However, it is your house and your car, and you have every right (and in fact, duty, IMO) to set the rules. Beyond that...I definitely wouldn't want to say more, as I don't think childless people should give parenting advice!

I think I would be a terrible parent, as I have no tolerance for misbehavior!

I am sure you will handle it well!

Peace,
Dawn

M,
So many of the holidays that we grew up w/and loved are being renamed just to be politically correct these days. Books that we read as children are no longer allowed in the school system because of this as well. The times have changed and the children of today don't have a clue what "fun" was back when we were kids and they'll never experience it or understand the true meaning of fun and using your imagination to the fullest to get even more fun out of those things of yesteryear. Those were the days!

I'm sorry that your son brought his friends over at that ungodly hour. You have every right to express yourself in your own home. Well, he may be an adult, but he's certainly not acting like one at this time. I imagine that the friend who left last week was hoping you'd allow him to spend the night. I feel for you, i.e., you have two adults attempting to spread their wings and find themselves at this time.

I do hope that your h will see a doctor about the BP issue. It's nothing to play with by any means. His stress level is off the chart and until he's on meds and comes to his senses and realizes that his life style is what is creating the health issue, he'll continue to have them. I pray that he wakes up very soon and returns home.

Please take care of yourself. I worry about you. You are carrying a very heavy load and do not want to see you become ill. Your faith has kept you strong throughout this journey and I pray that God will assist your h and waking up very soon.

Hope today is a good one for you.

The boys finally left but it messed up my sleeping pattern. Since I have to be at work in a few hours, I like to be able to sleep, and I have been up since 1AM and I went to bed about 10PM. I have had little sleep and my job is quite physical.

As for H. S18 told him that since he just sits over there, it is important for him to get some exercise because that will help with the stress he is experiencing as well as give him some physical activity.

How about having your own little party when you get up, presumeably son will be in bed at that time. Maybe he will show a little more consideration when his sleep is disturbed.
You really need your sleep with all thats going on. A good nights sleep can work wonders.

Will your H take any notice of sons comments? Maybe H will come over and do some house or yard work-all good exercise.

How come your son told you this?

Having a party? Nah. I have two other kids here and the last thing I want to do is make a lot of noise. Besides, my son sleeps thru anything.

Why did my son tell me about H and the exercise? Because he is aware of H's blood pressure and gave him some advice. I was in the next room while this conversation was taking place. H does listen and we do have some exercise equipment as well.

When S is himself, he talks to me about pretty much anything.

Fingers crossed H listens then and your son listens to your request re friends round until v late.
H would need to build up slowly though and if he hasn't used equipment for a long time he really should get a check up first.
Hope work was good today and feet are getting used to it.
I was on a course all day today and my bottom is hurting from too much sitting! Don't think gel pads would look very good in my case tho-lol.