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Back in the beginning after I found out and I wasnt sure if they had started the physical part, I had an ingrown hair pimple lsoe to the inner thigh and I coudlnt tell yet that it was that so i ahd it chekced and had all the tests, the dr. told what it was and said nothing to worry about. Before I saw her I gave X a good scare though, I screamed at him that I was goona get checked and I better not have gotten anything.

Well, I gave him a good scare, for a man who never sees the doc for anything, I got a 'missed appointment' post card (?). I never saw anything like that card before and we have had the same doctor. This was after I told him the test was negative and it was nothing. I took it as sign frm God that indeed they were physical.

I asked about the appoinment and he said he was being seen for that but for the possibility of him getting a vasectomy. MIND you this was when he swore they were jsut freinds. AND I have a hysterectomy. I said why? when I cant get prego and yr JUST FREINDS?

if they admitted your that woman to the hospital, she probably had gotten PID on top of the std. sadly because for us women some of them dont give us the obvious signs they give men. that is just awful.

thats always my worst fear in the world that I would get one from H. I have a friend, who found out she had one, of course the H blamed it on her, and denied having an A, she filed for D the next day.

Some of us need "proof". In a sick way this proves to me the truth of what happened when he went away on the busienss trip....i was right..the one night fling is what broke him and he allowed himself to go from there.

i did recently tell x in an email (with my c walking me through) and this has led to a possible session wiht my c and my x. Not seeking to try and pull him in for reconcilation but to free the air of some things....

After the bomb, H and I had no relations...but when we reconciled I made him get tested before I would do anything...everything came back negative.

The day after STBX walked I went to my doctor crying hysterically and made them run EVERYTHING!!!!!!! I told my STBX that he risked the life of the mother of his child! How could he take that risk? Of course, he immediately jumped to her defense and told me "she's not like that. You don't know her." Yeah right! I have found out otherwise. When I told my L her name my L's eyebrows went up and she said she knew that name. Turns out she has been involved with 3 other D's my L has handled. The skank is a 911 operator and has slept her way through the rolls of the county's police departments. Sick sick sick woman! Of course, my STBX lives with her and admits that "everything is not as happy as you think it is over here". Gee........imagine that? His A is backfiring on him? What a surprise?

Can you say sarcastic.

Cagz - I'm so sorry to hear that your H infected you. It sounds like it's one of those annoying things, not one of the dangerous ones. One round of antibiotics should do it I hope.

(((((Cagz)))))

thanks for the input.

i know this is a very very personal topic.

I think it is a good ideal for someone to post this, way to go!!

I was tested also, nothing, thank goodness!!!

Cagz,

I asked my OB/Gyn, whose office is downstairs from H and who delivered 2 of our 3 kids, to run every test. Of course I told him why, and he was just devastated. He knew my H, as everyone did, to be a wonderful, dedicated family man---the kind who always made time in his day to run downstairs to be with me for my appts. when I was pregnant. When H found out I had been tested, H had the nerve to get mad at me for telling my doctor!!

Oh, the selfish craziness of these a**holes is beyond belief.

Thank God I was clean, because even at the tender age of 20, when H and the OW started their affair, OW was FAR from being the innocent, good Christian girl she pretended to be. Blech. It's just nasty to think about.

Hope you are doing well.

TP

I told my OB/GYN also. You know what he did, he said lets pray & he said a prayer for me after he was finished with the exam of course. Last time I went to see him just for a regular checkup he asked me about things & I told him, he said lets pray & he did.

I too am on the receiving end of an STD.
After I found out about my Ws affair she has went in for an early pap smear. She comes to me a few days later and says she needs further test because the results were.....strange? It turns out she has HPV, one of the strains that causes cancer, and she has some precancerous cells. She goes back at the end of November to get checked again. Every yearly test she has been clean until this one...I remember the day we found out....we sat together and cried.

The bad part being a man is that there is no test for this. From her own admission we did have sex after they did....