oh wow! you did really great job! I am not sure how I would have handled it!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
The hardest thing about being around the sister is knowing that she used to "help" them sneak around. So I don't think much of her either. It's hard knowing she condoned the affair. Of course I've heard that this sister has been involved with married men also. So it's obvious these sisters do not have a moral conscience.
During homecoming one of the OW's friend's(actually I don't know how close they are anymore) daughter was also on court. The night the parents had to help decorate, the friend was there. The friend's daughters and mine used to play softball together when they were young. I could tell she was uncomfortable. I was friendly to her because I knew she had nothing to do with the affair. As a matter of fact she was called as a character witness at the divorce/custody hearing of the OW and H. The judge asked her what she thought about OW's actions and she said,"I think she made some poor choices." She was supposed to be a character witness for the OW for custody! The friend's H said told OW's exH that the friend didn't even know they were involved until she got to the courthouse that day and saw me and then put it together.
What these WAS don't understand is how they affect not only their marriages, but it extends to their children, family, and friends.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I saw your comment about the OW's sister helping them sneak around. It reminded me of my best friend. Her exH had an affair with her cousin. HER aunt helped it by driving her cousin to see her exH. Then, at a family reunion, her aunt stood up and gave a speech about how important family and togetherness is. My friend said that it took everything she had not to walk up and slap her. Instead, she got up and walked out of the room. Apparently her walking out made a pretty loud statement to the rest of the family that knew about the situation.
Glad to hear that H is calling you. And good job on the poking!
Take care- SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Family dynamics are so interesting!!! My ex,his gf, BIL, and SIL went out to dinner last Saturday night (found out from my daughter) and then on Sunday we were at BIL and SIL's house for their granddaughter's birthday party. Ex didn't get invited to that. I so wanted to ask them what it feels like for them to be with ex and ow.....but I didn't! (BIL/SIL on HIS side of the family).
Hope you have a fun weekend,Yoyo (guess it will be calm after all the homecoming activities!)
How are things going? It has been a longtime since I have been or posted on this site. I hope all is going well in your world(I haven't been keeping up so I really don't know). Heck.. you may not even remember me since it has been quite sometime. I thought I would pop by and let all of you know that I think of you guys and no matter what happens in life it still moves forward.
Oh my goodness, of course I remember you! I haven't checked my thread lately, so I was surprised and excited to see you dropped by. I've often wondered how you were doing! How are you and those precious little girls? Please feel us in on your life!
I looked at your thread and you haven't updated, please do. I'm sure everyone would be glad to hear from you.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Okay time for another school story. This one is unbelieveable. They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Today one of the teachers was talking about a conference she attended yesterday after school. She wrote a student up for burping and making loud yawning noises in her class. She had given him several warnings, but he was just trying to irritate her and get attention from his classmates. The principal gave the student detention hall. The mother thought it was unfair and requested a meeting with the teacher. The principal, mother, student, and teacher attended the meeting. Now, this is very crude, but it really did happen. The mother was complaining that she didn't see anything wrong with burping and yawning. The mother said, "Well, I cough and fart". The principal said "Do you work?" She said, "Yes, I'm a nurse at the nursing home". He replied, "Well, I hope you don't do it at your job". Unbelieveable, isn't it? You can't make this stuff up!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
The principal said "Do you work?" She said, "Yes, I'm a nurse at the nursing home". He replied, "Well, I hope you don't do it at your job". Unbelieveable, isn't it? You can't make this stuff up!