I am doing a good job of avoiding "more of the same" and "old BBJ" behaviors. In the past if I tried to reach H like I did last night and he didn't respond, I would have called again every 30 min. or so until I got ahold of him. Or would have sent a pouty text about how he was too busy for me again.
Of course, in those instances I always wound up forcing a conversation when it was not a good time (like 2 in the morning, both in different states, tired, crabby, etc) and it NEVER went well. If H agreed w/me he was only caving b/c he was tired and wanted to sleep.
So I didn't call him last night. Haven't called him today. Tired of pursuing. This man should show up at my door with an armful of flowers tonight. He won't, but he should. I can't respect myself if I keep throwing myself at him with no reciprocation.
I am not sure what this all means yet. I did say in my letter:
I would really appreciate it if you could answer those same questions and send them to me over the next couple days, if you have time.
He didn't do so. I don't really know what else I could do...
I think it is quite possible that he did not read it.
As I mentioned, when I sent the sexy power point email (gosh that sounds nerdy now!) a couple weeks ago he didn't read it until after he got back from the trip b/c he couldn't see it large enough on his blackberry, and he was too lazy to open it up on his laptop...
So it may be sitting unopened in his inbox. That would explain why he didn't answer, but what reason would there be for him just not reading a message from me?? Priorities............
LOL. If anyone can use the words "sexy" and "power point" in the same sentence, it'd be you!
Avoidance? Wanting his "free time" to himself? Waiting for the plane ride? Did read it and is trying to act more loving by contacting you so you know he's thinking about you (and hoping you won't make him 'do work')?
He read it BBJ. Even if he says he didn't. He is choosing not to deal with it. It's much easier this way.
I'm with Woog..he read it. He's decided he ain't dealing with that right now. He's dumb but not that dumb..he knows you know that he read it. He's trying to smooth things over( or keep things from starting up) with the text message he sent checking on you.
The more I think about it the more steamed I feel. I pretty much think that texting me like everything is hunky dory is his way to "check my temperature" as I have heard people say on here before.
What makes me madder is that after waiting an hour, I replied that I was tired, too. After I sent it, I realized he was prob. just checking my temp to see how mad I was at him, and that since I responded, I must be "fine", or "ok".
So I am mad at him and a little mad at me, too. My in-laws are supposed to be taking the kids camping tonight after supper. H and I are to join them tomorrow afternoon, it is a group of families getting cabins for the weekend. MIL better not bail on me, I need her to take the kids tonight so H and I can be alone.
And not in a "sexy powerpoint" way. In a "you snooze you lose Buddy" way.
Go for a run. Let the steam out before you have this talk. Focus on what you need. Don't attack. State the rules you expect from him. Firm. Focused and to the point.
In a "you snooze you lose Buddy" way. 