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((((((((((Lisa))))))))))))

Oh sweetie....I'm so sorry. That is just the pits! It is only 9:30p there right? Could you ring him to meet up for a drink somewhere?

I'm not sure what else to tell you to do for him other than to be open to talking with him. If he's so stressed he needs an outlet. He knows you and you understand the work he does so that could be a comfort.

Just because he's self-sufficient doesn't mean that he doesn't need a shoulder.

It could be a bit dangerous though. With him being so low right now and you feeling vulnerable....you get the picture.

Hi Lisa, I am sorry to hear about your job, yours is the 4th I have heard of this week in similar circumstances(my son included) my friends DIL went to work last week to find they were locked out-after 20yrs there and she knew nothing.
With regard to CEO I haven't really any advice(after being asked why I was still on this BB after so many years) but I will say I am sure your big heart will think of something. Just be his friend as well as you can. He may appear self sufficient but we all need that someone to lean on from time to time. A touch of the hand an arm around the shoulder, a hug. We all need the human touch.
Maybe he is not your H but he has been kinder to you these past months than the genuine article. Is this another link in the chain being broken or the forging of a new chain being made.
Life it seems is full of the unexpected so go with the flow and be open to all possibilities.
It really does no good to look too long at the closed door.
Some seem to believe that they will work it out in their head and heart, the reason's the were's and why fore's. They will be the one to know the answer. I hope they post it one day for the thousands of us that never found an answer and learnt to accept that it just is. Love dies but tears water our soul and from that springs hope and new life,reach out and embrace all those possibilities.
I wish you hope in your heart for all your tomorrows. Also maybe reach out and touch the hand of CEO---just a suggestion.

Call him up, I agree. Just do it. You would that for a friend, wouldnt you?
Tell him you ve been thinking about him and see if he wnats to talk and if the call goes well maybe you can get out for a drink and hug each other (hi hi)...

I am sorry Lisa. Somehow I am not worried about you though. And somehow I feel he was sad because he won't be seeing you much on top of everything else. But of course that ends the CEO-employee dillema, and starts the man-woman era, right?
Love
xxx
M

((((Mishka))))) ((((Naej)))) ((((Sunshine)))))

You guys are the best. Thankyou for being here- I really appreciate it.

So, it's a little late for me to call him- I'm at least half an hour away from anywhere we could meet for a drink. I should have done it earlier- it IS what I'd do for a friend. Although he's not really my friend. maybe I can ask him if he wants to go for a drink tomorrow since I'll be at work (he may not be though).

Mishka- I see what you're saying about him being low and me being vulnerable. I wouldn't let anything happen for those reasons, but you're such a good friend to point it out and look out for me.

Naej- I'm so glad you posted to me. I'm very happy to see you and very glad to hear your thoughts. To me, the fact that you post says to me that you're someone who wants to pass on their experience and I think that's a very caring thing to do. Thankyou for visiting me. I understand what you mean about moving on and not waiting for a closed door to open, and I want to touch CEOs hand- it's so tempting to do it. Until today when I felt so sad that he felt sad I don't think I realised that I must care about him at least a little.

Sunshine- the era of man and woman...who knows! He wasn't flirting when we were speaking today. But he was vulnerable at times and I guess I shouldn't expect an alpha-male display under all circumstances. I guess we'll see when he's not my actual boss any more whether there was something more to all the flirting.

OK, so I sent him an e-mail to tell him what I'll get done this weekend. And I also said that I hoped he was OK and I'd enjoyed getting to know him and working for him this year.

Thankyou guys. It's so great to be able to post and know you're here.

L. xx

(((Lisa)))

That's pants, I'm so sorry!

I was going to suggest a text to CEO just asking how he is but an email is probably better.

I insist, call him, at least send another email saying that "if you need to talk, you have my number". Your mail sounded so professional...
K

We're definitely here for you Lisa.

Naej - I wanted to say thank you to you also. You are such a voice of wisdom and show me that there is life after the death of a M. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

Lisa, touch his hand, touch his heart. I really think there is something there between you. It would be a shame to let him go out of your life without further exploring the possibilities. Just be careful doing it is all I'm saying.

Oh no, now I wish I'd asked him how he was! This was the last of my e-mail:

"I hope you're OK- you seemed down earlier. You're an amazing CEO and whatever happens on Tuesday it's been my absolute pleasure to get to know you over the past year. And I should never send e-mails after drinking wine!"

So I didn't ask him to call, or offer to listen (don't want to pursue- it's obviously become ingrained in me!). I did offer for him to watch the football with me tomorrow afternoon if he wants to in another part of the e-mail aswell though.

Do you think that was too stand-offish? I genuinely don't want to pursue/go too far in offering support as we're not in an R or anything, and in case he needs cave time to deal with the work stuff. Men- so perplexing!

L. xx

No, I think it is nice.

In fact excellent as he is still your boss

Thanks Julia! Hope the takeaway was good tonight!

L. xx