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So, I locked up another one of these. I sat here staring at the screen for a while wondering if I should be here at "separated" or move to "the big D" and decided to hang here until the judge signed the papers.

Nothing new to report.... other than she is still acting so very strange. It would almost be easier to understand if she were angry with me or something.... this nice thing freaks me out.

I am first!!!

And yes I can relate to what you said in the last post on your previous thread (I am lazy to repeat it).

So, when are you moving to Athens?
Forget I asked that. I think I need to DB you and make you realise Athens is the "greener grass" (although Idaho is probably far more greener than Greece) or more accurate that I am the "redder option"... Hmm, that sounded funny. You know what I mean. (I wonder what links Kerry will come up with, LOL!!!)
Have a good day,
Love
xxxx
S

Wow. I like that exchange.

I think ill write that on w bday card. "I have the greenest grass".

The problem with green grass is it requires a lot of care.

In a month or two, Idaho will be far more whiter than Greece.

Woog, do you still let her come and go at your house?

Now she calls and asks before coming over. That part is working much better.

Just as myself, I am sure the day will come when she is no longer invited in.

Honestly I hope it doesn't come to that. Not while the kids live with me. I think that would be too hard on them and unfair to them.

Woog,

You are such a good man. I am continually impressed by how well you handle everything, and continue to be a great dad and a respectful STBX when it comes to your wife. You remember that she is the mother of your children and treat her well even when she doesn't deserve it. Wow you are a great guy. K is a lucky lady to have caught a fisherman like you (had to say it!)

BBJ

I totally understand the benefit the kids get from your X visiting. However, I should have clarified - do you think your X wife will be visiting if and when you have a new love of your life living with you?

My plan was to allow my X to come in to visit while I am still single, but after this last weekend of not respecting me when she was invited into my home, I am seriously considering putting a stop to her visits once the D is final. I am walking on eggshells right now and dont want to rock the boat, but I need to make my personal life more private from my X. When the kids are with me they follow my rules and not W's rules. I feel it best that W not witness how the kids and I operate at home as she then wants to exert too much control to fit her method.

Your situation is a bit more like my fathers in that the kids live with you pretty much full time. My father never allowed our mother to visit - only to pick us up.

Kerry,

I don't know what will happen in the future. I would hope anyone I am in love with will understand the relationship my kids have with their mother and the place in my life that fits. If not, I'm not sure I could truly love that person.

Generally I find that my stbx and I operate with the same rules. She is a bit more lienent than I but we both know that and respect each other's position. My stbx is very respectful of the fact it is "my house" and asks now before doing anything.

It's weird.... I admit it. But it's working. Why screw with it?