Just realising now that W seems to "shoot first" then think later about what she says or do's, not just with me but in general, if it catches me on a bad day then it gets a bad response.
We spoke today on the phone and I apologised for my behaviour at the previous day, I told her that we are still poor at communicating with each other. Her response was " No Lan you're poor at communicating with me".Hmmmm.... I'll bite my tongue for now and work on my communication skills.
Lan, With the Ws in general: "if you're wrong, you're wrong. If you're right you're dead wrong". I've minimized the flow of "communication" with my W down to a trickle so there's much less chance to be wrong! I was advised to not react and defer response 24-48 hours but later I was advised to not react and respond immediately. I'll let you make whatever sense you can of these aphorisms. And so, yes, indeed, you're bad at communicating with W ;-).
Lan, With the Ws in general: "if you're wrong, you're wrong. If you're right you're dead wrong".
Coming from a w, I just have to pipe in and say that it's dangerous and not very productive to think of "Ws in general" when trying to improve your communication with your w specifically.
Yep! We go back to the days when Lan could only imagine the Honey Pot at the end of the rainbow South of the border! Tongue still in check, I mean cheek ;).
I came across this in the SSM forum(Four basic models for initiation sex) and I thought I would give it a go (seduction) and try and set the scene for W for tonight and see how it went. W and I had this txt exchange.
L : Massage tonight after your shower. W: Who's massaging who ? L : I will be giving you one W: What, a massage ? L: Yes a massage, W: OKx L: Just thought it would be something different at the end of a long day W: Oh yes?.
I think the penny finally dropped, we'll see how it goes.
fb2, what other forum? You know today you said "read your previous threads"... Well, I have been and went back today to the archives. There are so many there of mine and as I was reading them, I realised lately I have lost my sense of humor and "shine"... It's mostly because of my dad and all the practical problems I am having. SO, I decided I need to go back to the newfound me (who I had lost and found again and lost again etc etc). Lan is an easy target. He does have a one track mind, doesnt he? S
