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That's hitting the nail on the head.

just checking in with everyone. Doing some family oriented things with W and our son. Wife knows I'm over her.....she wants to possibly get back together though. So she says. Hope everyone is doing well.

Wife really isn't over OM, but has attempted to hold my hand and kiss me on several occasions.....obviously confused and lonely. Still wants to have and eat the cake.

could use some advice from the gurus here. W assumes that I'm over her and that it isn't the end of the world to me if she doesn't come back. I would obviously like her to come back, when she is ready. She has made it clear we rushed into marriage in the first place, but she is trying very hard to sort her feelings out for me.

In my opininon and as a W who had an A. It takes tremendous strength to get over OM and a tremendous amount of wanting your M to work.

If she cant stop contact or get over him, I dont think you stand a chance until the R with Om goes sour ( and it will ).

You prepared to wait ?

Be careful she is not leading you to pull the plug so to speak, which will ease her guilt.

You can bet your last dollar - that she wants her cake and to eat it to.

max their relationship has gone sour....my wife got pregnant from OM and he wants nothing to do with her or the baby. OM has a girlfriend too

wife cares about me very much, always has, and apologizes profusely all the time. She knows she has to earns my trust back. I know she has feelings for me though.

So if he were to file first, it lessens her guilt? That is where I think that my W is at.

WOW! How do you feel about that?

I love my wife and have always loved her. The child is a part of my wife so I can live with it. If my wife truly reconciles with everything and wants to work things out, I will take her back and put all this behind me.