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Hey Kalni,
I hope your Dad is alright? I am sorry your H is such a selfish work obsessesed *rse. You need him to be responsible for his kids ALL of the time, not just when there is a crisis hey. I dont know what a Hermes bag is! I have a beaten up handbag that cost me £2 from Primark.. and usually I carry everything else around with me in a Tesco carrier bag. You just made me realise just how bad that is !!!! I will get a nice bag out for tommorow. Thinking of you...

Ali xxx

My dad is not alright. We are at a dead end. He either has surgery or he cant live like this for more than a few days. If he does have surgery, chances are he is not coming home after that.

I didnt want to say this because typing it makes it real. But it is what we are facing. I just came back from the hospital. He doesnt know how critical the sitch is and talks as if this is another issue to be fixed. He is in pain but cant see the whole picture. I told him I love him very much and kissed his hands and his face. He told me "I love you very much too". It felt good. After what happened with Jen, I am making sure he is reminded how important he is to me.

I am not strong either. I just cant let this get out of control. In Greece death in the family is treated very dramatically which makes it harder. We wear black for months and the traditions related are very cruel. But I have been trained and I can handle those. It's missing my dad that I am worried about. I hope we dont get there for a long time.I am trying to block out the images from my head. For as long there is hope I am holding on to it. I think I am the only one that does at the moment...

Handbags... I am crazy about handbags. I am thinking of selling some on the ebay at the moment, LOL!!! I am under "punishement" and I am not allowed (by myself) to buy any more for the next 6-8 months.
K

(((((Kalni)))))

I'm so sorry to hear that about your dad. Not really what you needed right now, is it? I'm glad you are letting him know what he means to you. It's good that you have that chance. We will all be with you, as much as we can.

So, if you sell some handbags, can you get out of detention, and buy a new one?

Jeff mou,
I know I can count on you. Thanks...

I havent thought of that. You think I could? (buy a new one). Hmmm, that sounds like a good plan.
S

((((Kalni))))

Thinking of you and your family sweetie.

Hi Kalni,

"I am not strong either."

A lot stronger than you think I have a feeling.

I'm sorry you're going thru this, but glad you & your dad are telling each other how much you care for each other. I bet he gets so much strength & happiness from you, his "spirited" girl.
Sure makes you realize how important your family is!

I have handbag issues also. Last week it was a beautiful Italian buttercup leather one that I couldn't resist.
There are worse addictions, right?

I'll be thinking of you & your dad......stay strong sweet M.

Sunny

K, I have no idea where the "strong" is supposed to come from in these situations - your M and your dad at the same time. It would be be inhuman to expect you to "be strong". I know I'm weak.

My D12 has a handbag "issue" too. She has a ton of them and people keep giving her more. Each time we go out she totes one of these with her IPOD, cellphone, chapstick, etc.

Maria -

You and your father are in my thoughts. I hope your kids get through this ok and continue having lasting memories of their grandfather. There is nothing wrong with holding on to hope and we all hope a miracle happens for your fathers health.

My wife was greatly affected by the sudden loss of her father while she lived here in the USA. We returned to Thailand and the funeral was a week long. I beleive some of her missing her father has played a big part in why OM is her fathers age.

A daughter builds a very special bond with their fathers and you cannot be expected to easily detach from this. Maybe there is a good reason for the long grieving in Greece so as to remember and heal.

(((((Kalni)))))

I pray that you and your father make it through this. He has a wonderful daughter, and I am sure he knows how much you love him.

As for the purse punishment...what could you have done to punish yourself so? That is cruel and unusual punishment. Don't say you won't buy and shoes either. That will be the death of you. My teen D used to tell me I didn't need anymore purses or shoes. I would say "one day you will realize you can never have too many purses or shoes." Now that she is a teen she has realized that. I guess I created a monster.

I'm so sorry to hear its that serious, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. No wonder you couldnt care less about your H and him wanting to talk to you, nothing is as important as this right now. You clearly adore your Dad and its lucky you are still able to speak to him as you say and tell him that you love him and that he can tell you the same. I feel upset thinking of being in your shoes, as I adore my Dad too.. really sorry for you having so much on your plate and I agree with fb2, you dont have to be a strong superwoman, its ok to crumble, when things are this tough. Tell your H to mind the kids and call in sick to work! You need to be free to go be with your Dad? I wish I could say something more helpful, but all I can tell you is I am thinking of you very much

Ali xxxxx