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Thank you guys. Unfortunately, almost like the old times, thank Good Forrest's wife still wants him and BBJ's H seems to slowly getting "healthy" again...

Bbj, you've got it all. Mostly the third thing you listed. Watching my kids suffer for so long and so much would be hard to forget and decide against their "happiness"...

Forrest, I don't get you again. It has been a while and your English sounds... Greek to me. Maybe you care to explain? And to him, I think I look like my old self again. Like today, an hour ago, I told him that he needs to see the kids more and that he cant be telling he cant have them on Sat on Wed nights at midnight. He got mad and we had a nice pre-bomb exchange of bitter words etc...

I need to change PCs and I will post some more later...
K

I am not defending myself Ali. I want my friends to know why I trouble myself. When i was little, learning english we used to say "never trouble troubles, till troubles trouble you". I guess that is what I need to do now.

(((((My Lady)))))


Now this is something I TOTALLY understand!!


And this also. For me, it's like I have a small amount of peace in my life. I'm coming to terms with what has happened. Most days I accept it although like you I'm not happy with the outcome; it was NOT what I expected. Then if he says he wants to work on things, do you risk doing it and seeing how it goes, or do you play the 'bad guy' and say no and walk away. I don't think there's a right answer to this question- it depends on the time and the situation and every person probably has different thoughts.

Thinking of you, Beautiful Sunshine. I hope you've had a good day today,

L. xx

My Lady!!!
Finally... I need to call off the Red Cross now...
K

((K)), I believe I know what you mean by "quiet"; you just need to be still and peaceful; I've been there for a while.

And I knew FG would pop by with "DAM", "No Emotion", "let go" and "Do Work" cryptology; BTW when was the last time you clicked on "Do Work" - its actually your definition. BTW H is well proportioned except maybe for his nose ;).

I have to admit that like the others I'm still in Limboland about your sitch.

LOL! I haven't been gone that long! Missed you though....

L. xx

(((((Kalni)))))

I see what you are saying too! If he said he wanted to try, how could you trust it? And, can you do this all again? That's a hard choice to make!

That was my biggest difficulty when W wanted to come back - how could I trust it? After all the lies and deceit? In a way, I didn't want her to want to come back - then I wouldn't have to decide whether I had it in me to take try and make it work. I already had a new job and a new house and I was a few weeks from moving away for good. I wasn't sure it was worth tossing that aside in order to see whether there was any chance to love and trust her unconditionally again.

All I would suggest is that you first of all decide if you even have any desire. Then if you do, make a short list of things H would have to do to convince you that he was sincere in rebuilding your R, and also a list of things that are definite dealbreakers - then tell him what they are. Make him show you it is real. Words are cheap.

Ok, this is funny... All the gang is back. We are missing W2G, Stella and addie...

G, thanks for stopping by. There is no such issue yet. But so far I am making sure there will not be such an issue in the future. I am not being "approachable" to him in any way. So, that solves my "problem"... I hope.
K

Any Questions?

Now...

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And yes, I am panicking maybe for no reason. I will stop.

Ohhh, and your Greek is ...great!!