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You know Kissak when I read this it made me cringe...and after reading the rest of this saga I agree that she/he probably is not at all who your H thinks she/he is...and highly unlikely that this person is a missionary at all...not to mention religious/Christian...Which to me isn't a title...it is a way of life...you don't just remove it after Church...or leave it at the office when you get off of work...it IS WHO YOU ARE...

Which brings me to my question...why would you think God would have anything to do with what your H is doing?...He hates adultery, he hates lying, he hates cheating...this perfectly describes God's enemy, Satan the Devil...who IS in control of this world...I believe we all learn from the trials we face in life but I don't believe and I don't see the Bible supporting the idea that God brings these trials upon us to teach us a lesson...What your H is doing is of his own free will which God has given us all...your H is misuing it just as many have and continue to to misues their "rights"...

since you seem to be a sincere person and a bible reader I would like to share a few scriptures with you...

For those who don't believe or might be offended, I appologize...and Kissak if you aren't interested I completely respect that so I will will simply post the scriptures and you can look them up and read them...or not..but they certainly helped me put things in perspective...about why my H did what he did...and who REALLY is to blame for the bad things that happen...and how we all have a choice...

Again, for any who do not believe in the bible...this is not meant to offend...I just wanted to share this with Kissak and any others who are interested and going through what she is...I have been there...I have since saved my marriage...my H has returned to his faith and we are once again a united Christian family...for that I do give God credit and feel blessed.

Deuteronomy 32:4
James 1:13
James 1:14, 15
1 John 2:15-17
1 John 5:19
1 John 3:8

"And that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will." 2 Timothy 2:26

Another good one...and fitting under the circumstances...also, confirming that it isn't God causing this....

Good one MWG

Lin

I posted this on Glam's thread as I came across it yesterday in my prayer book:

Proverbs 24:16

"A righteous man may fall seven times and rise again."

I kept thinking about our husbands and how they seem to fall, pick themselves up, fall deeper and so on.

Of course God isn't causing any of this. I don't believe that anyone has suggested that he is. That being said; God also has allowed for free will. Because of that He isn't going to reach down and manipulate anyone as if puppets on strings. J is making his choices. They are bad choices, but they are choices he has to own.

God's plan for this is for you to lead a righteous life and to do no harm. His ultimate plan is for no one to be lost. He isn't going to puppet string that either.

Kissak,
Find your center. This week your focus has been on your absent husband and it has caused a great amount of upset and turmoil within. A new week is here and it is time to redirect back to what you *can* control rather than what you cannot.

*hugs*
~ swl

Thanks to everyone. I do appreciate your guidance.

I was NOT saying that God was doing anything to teach us a lesson or causing all of this.

I was simply saying that I do pray for a christian to befriend my H to maybe help lead him down the right paths, maybe someone to help him. I know it would be up to him whether or not he would listen. It is his choices of course. I do believe that God places people in our lives for a reason. But I do believe that God does allow things to happen. Saying I needed to be more specific in my prayers, was more or less just a little humor from me. Sorry If I was misunderstood.

AND, you all should know that sometimes i come here just to vent how I am feeling at the time. It is the ONLY place I can come and really put my feelings out there. Sometimes it doesnt even make sense to me after I read it later.

But I am doing good today. SOmetimes I just get down and start having a pity party with myself. It is just a way for me to get through things.

Thank you lin, I will look up these verses later and read them. I can always use guidance from Gods word.

Seems my H was taken by a scam, and the funny thing is it seems as if he isnt 100% convinced. He even sent this girl $100 a week ago. I can believe how nieve he was. This "girl" told him she loved him and everything after just a week and a half. Fooled him good too. But the more he talked about it, the stupider he looked. All you had to do was look it up on the internet and anyone could have figured it out. Now, this person has his pics and will probably use them to scam somebody else.

I believe he is more needy and vulnerable than me. To fall in love like this? Will he ever figure out what love is?

I just cant believe he sent them money.

Today I had to take my cat to the vet. She had never been in a vehicle before and I swear that cats eyes were as big around as a frisbee! But, I got her there with the help of my kids. Im having her spayed today. But I think she is already expecting another litter! UGH! I cant even give the kittens away from her last litter.

Any body want some kittens?

Their Free!!

I will figure out a way to get them to you! LOL!!!

Gotta go to the dentist today. Yuck!

So, starting out the day pretty good.

Hope everyone has a great day!

oh, and my H heard back from that "chick" in Africa.

SHe only wants about $400 now. I cant believe he is even talking to them now. He is out of his house now. Living full time in the camper. He got a loan from somewhere and gave me money to help with the bills since Im having a hard time at work. He even surprised me and paid a bill that was late! They had called him because it was in his name, so he paid it. Said I have helped him out alot and he was just helping me and i could pay him back whenever I could.

That is a blessing. I really needed the help this month. I have no idea where or how he got the money.

Wow--he is so vulnerable and is craving attention from other sources (ie scams) that he will believe anything he is told. He will wake up one day.

I am glad he has helped you out as you need it and deserve it.

I don't need kittens as I have a Border Collie and a Sheltie-Collie mix dog. That is plenty for us.

The dentist huh--if it is a teeth cleaning, I'll go for that but anything else, nah.

Hey MWG...I only had to go for a cleaning today, so it wasnt that bad. But I would have rather not gone because they always find something wrong that will costs lots to fix! Seem all I do is spend more money replacing all those old silver fillings they use to give us years ago. Im having to fix something I dont think I should have to pay for twice!! But oh well.

Today was a good day at work. The phone actually rang and I had customers! YAY!! But the reason was because someone passed away. But people die everyday and Im just glad I got some business from it...not that I want someone to die, but hey.

Hadnt really talk to H much today. He still doesnt text much anymore. I dont think he talked to the scammer today. Last he heard from them was that they only wanted $400 now so they could mail him their check so he could cash it and send it back....??? Of course he's not gonna and I think theyve got the point now.

Got my cat back from the vet...poor thing, she was so scared, but she behaved well. We have to keep her in the house a couple of days, which I dont like. I have her in the laundry room because she wants to jump up on the counters! I cant let her eat for 12 hours and she is so hungry...I did sneak her a few bites of some dry food. I hope it wont make her sick!

Still have kittens to get rid of!!