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i'm now the cause of the failure of my M because i cant fart the Miami Vice theme song and who knows what else, just a list of some ridiculous, impossible-to-achieve issues.


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Ken - You just compelled me to google the Miami Vice theme song and I agree - it is impossible to reproduce that complicated song with farts. Try something slower like the X-Files theme song.


ROTFLMAO..Kerry..that is just too damn funny..

Wow Ken, your W has some really high expectations of you..

Hey Ken..when and If you detect her acting "nuttier than a squirrel turd" then my advice is "run"

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ahh, but those high notes in the X Files theme song are tough to hit sometimes.

and Mike, the time to run has come and gone. I'm accepting that now and am alright with it.

everyone has their own Point-of-no-return, mine was the knowledge of the affair. today i feel there is no fixing my R after that, the trust has been destroyed, and i do not want it fixed. while i leave myself the option of changing my mind in the future, as of now, its done and over. I will always be the father of my D2.75, I will do whatever it takes to raise her well, i will interact with STBX with as much grace and dignity as I can when it comes to our D2.75.

besides that, I will work on myself, better my life, and put myself out on the open market.


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how about not the open market yet
maybe you should take the time to work on you'
mournt he lsos of your relationship and all the hopes that went with it

jeeeeeeeeeeepers
your bomb was in May!!!!

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Originally Posted By: fig
and RMG...that to me is the true reason we stand
it would be much much easier to cut and run
and to find someone else who could tell us we are right
and
our spouses suck
and
we should just get divorced

instead we chose to stand
it is the harder path
the one that takes more fortitude and grace than we ever knew we were capable of having
it is the one that brings us to our knees
that makes us question
that burns us
and hurts like nothing else

and

when we come out the other end
we can be proud
and people can see

that we have stood for our beliefs
we have gone through fire
been compressed and worn down and come out clean
like a diamond
at the other end


fig,

Not to be too dramatic.... But, I have NEVER felt any pain which even remotely compared to the pain with my D from Kim....... That is what I got for loving her so deeply.... That is simply the way it is....

I hope all is well with BH and the kids...

RMG

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Fig, i'm not on the market now, i understand i need to work on myself first, it'll be a long time until i'm out there again, no doubt. thats my longterm goals. didnt mean to imply i was rushing back into it. the bomb was may, the divorce hasnt happened yet, theres still a long unknown road ahead of me.

i do appreciate your concerns though, and thank you for that.


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I agree with Fig - you gotta be very careful of the rebound R that is more of a bandaid. Second marriages have a higher failure rate possibly because of rushing too quick into a new R following a broken heart. I probably should not talk as I have done a few things with a nice gal, but I have been hesitant to push it past anything but someone to do fun things with. And she is of the same "no hurry" attitude. AFAIK, we may never have another date as we are both too busy with higher priorities now...KIDS.

You might want to go to the library and get a couple good books about dating before diving back in full tilt...

Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship

Dating for Dads: The Single Father's Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly

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that pain is viscious
and there are times that i look back and i can't even remember it
not because it didn't matter
but because my mind is protecting me from the memories

there were many days when i drifted in and out of whatever
simply because i had to
and
nothing really latched on anywhere

i am very grateful that i had wonderful friends and family who helped with my kids, reminded me to take showers, bought movies and popcorn and who would answer the phone at 3am and know it was me even if all i could get out was a cry

we were (some still are) the walking wounded

i do not regret loving deeply
i love deeply again
and it is recirpocated and cyclical

to love deeply is a gift we were all graced with

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Originally Posted By: fig
that pain is viscious
and there are times that i look back and i can't even remember it
not because it didn't matter
but because my mind is protecting me from the memories

there were many days when i drifted in and out of whatever
simply because i had to
and
nothing really latched on anywhere

i am very grateful that i had wonderful friends and family who helped with my kids, reminded me to take showers, bought movies and popcorn and who would answer the phone at 3am and know it was me even if all i could get out was a cry

we were (some still are) the walking wounded

i do not regret loving deeply
i love deeply again
and it is recirpocated and cyclical

to love deeply is a gift we were all graced with


fig,

That is all very true...... I have to admit I really love Wifey...... But, I think all of us need to have time with our new partner to rebuild our ability to trust and love more deeply....

RMG


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last post 9/24, where does the time go? oh yeah, hours of pain and waiting and healing.

no real updates on my sitch, just counting days till the STBXW moves out. looking forward to it actually. doing some shopping, new sheets, some furniture. some things for ME. its my time now, me and the kid.

very little interaction with the STBXW. i have no interest in her or what she's doing anymore. the dissappointment in her choices is still there, absolutely. but for her personally, nothing. i made the mistake of asking her how her day went (habit) and as soon as she started answering, i realized i really didnt care.

just want to know what i'm left with after the divorce, and start getting into my schedule with the kid.

peculiar how quickly focus changes when the decision is made.


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Originally Posted By: KenF
last post 9/24, where does the time go? oh yeah, hours of pain and waiting and healing.

no real updates on my sitch, just counting days till the STBXW moves out. looking forward to it actually. doing some shopping, new sheets, some furniture. some things for ME. its my time now, me and the kid.

very little interaction with the STBXW. i have no interest in her or what she's doing anymore. the dissappointment in her choices is still there, absolutely. but for her personally, nothing. i made the mistake of asking her how her day went (habit) and as soon as she started answering, i realized i really didnt care.

just want to know what i'm left with after the divorce, and start getting into my schedule with the kid.

peculiar how quickly focus changes when the decision is made.


yes it is Ken. Once the decision is made and a plan in place then things seem to get easier.

have you learned to fart either of those tunes correctly?? I would think that would be high on the list of requirements of the next young lady who enters into your life....or maybe your a romantic and would like to surprise her with that newfound talent??

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