It's amazing what a little probing can draw out of a person, I'm glad to see that you have a lot of things going on to keep you busy.
I think you're more likely to catch W's doing all of the things that you are doing, but also you're more likely to attract new friends and aquaintances, which will be very good for you.
Keep journaling your activities and I'll try to repond.
Thanks lan/Lodo - trying to get place into a home but hard work - it seems to be the last "job" on the list at the moment...
yes, Derbyshire - north west corner - next to the High Peak and close enough - supposedly, to manchester to commute!
nottingham is a great place - renowned for having a 5:1 female to male ratio in my youth! i come from close to there - South Derbys...and after moving all over settled in this village cos it was the place W and i always found ourselves drawn to at the weekends! And we figured that only one of us should have the cr@ppy commute...her job is a full 15 mins away. Not that i have had any thanks for that...as per...
thanks for checking in - i very, very much appreciate it...
KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
Finding it hard to get down to any lengthy jobs on house - especially now the nights are drawing in - still - I have a good chunk of time at the weekend - I need to see the end of a job right now - I have too many on the go.
3 hours of badminton tomorrow! I'm going to be a wreck!
Phoned W this morning - just to say "hi" and ended up having nice lengthy chat.
Anyhow - KBO!
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
Latest - stayed at W and S's home last night while W went out overnight...I find that so very hard as I know fine well where she's staying - with OM - hopefully things will get better when I can have S6 come and stay with me. He seems to be holding up pretty well but things are on his mind as he's chewing his collars - something he did when he was smaller when he was anxious. He's also upped his "I love you's" so he's looking for lots of reassurances right now. W and I are giving all of that.
Then to top if all S6 was playing on W's laptop a bit and asked me to help him look up something - and there in black and white in the search history was "divorce advice".
Which threw me into a loop. Was doing well till that point and as I haven't snooped for months - primarily cos of the cr@ppy way it made me feel, felt caught way off guard.
So there it is - just don't know what to do - I love my wife - so much - yet this train seems set on a single track and there's nothing I can do, nothing I can put in its way, no warning signs I can draw the driver's attention to, that will change it. Perhaps that, in itself, is how it must be.
Coulda, woulda, shoulda feeling today - and a very important finance meeting to go to shortly - last thing in the world I feel like I can deal with.
KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
I can imagine how hard that revelation must have hit you, almost like you standing in front of a runaway train. Pow !!
But I guess it must have woken you up to the reality of the situation you are in right now, W planning for a D, spending odd nights with OM, on the face of it, it doesn't look good. However you are GAL'ing, hopefully you PMA remains high, all you can do is KBO and hope for the best, the best will come to you when you are ready.
