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Somehow I missed all the banning, crap...

Love the title. In college my H was terribly constipated when he came to MY college town, I went to the one grocery store in my town at 2 in the morning to buy him a Fleet Enema (he was having stomach cramps horribly), and saw a dozen friends out for snacks after the bars closed. Things we do for love...

So how are you today? Maybe I can fly down and see the movie with you...ok prob not but I want to see it, too!

How Am I today..well now I'm upset again..I mean this is crap..you can't open a frinkin thread questioning anything. It amazes me that no reason has been given for the mass out of control banning/thread locking that these MODS are doing..the freakin control monster has taken over.. you guys know jack squat about DB..it's pathetic in MHO.

BBJ..I hope you get to see the movie..I hope he takes you. You deserve to be treated well and loved.

yep..I know the things we do for love..and then again things some people do when power goes to their head..

I missed the banning frenzy too. reminds me of the Monty Python - Is She a Witch bit from the Holy Grail. From your list, they're all great people who have given me help, and clearly not witches.

and your thread subjects always crack me up, easy to see who originated them just by the title.

and gabbysmom, i'm in central NJ, if you ever need a movie partner, let me know. and I'm good with tissues - long time allergy sufferer.

I'll give an update..well the week started off with an email on Monday from STBX throwing me a bone and asking me if I wanted to pick up D2 on Thursday of this week after daycare and keep her a few hours. I replied back with a yes and a thank you..so an extra day for Mikey. I then get a VM from her on Tuesday reminding me that the daycare that D goers to now requires an ID card be made..she also let me know the times..I had all thuis written down in a planner and knew about it..I fail to see why she thought I needed to be reminded..but that is neither here nor there..remember, I'm the lucky guy who chose batchitt..I've worked on the house lots this week. I'm hosting my first Texas Hold-em game this Saturday..so have about 10 victims coming over..it should be fun. I'm gonna smoke another Boston Butt for pulled pork for that..on an ironic side note..there is a festival that is held at a place in the town where STBX now lives. We always went as a couple..well the tickets were always comped to us as we know the owners..they were always mailed..well I changed my mailing address when I moved so the tickets came to me ROTFLMAO...so me, a good buddy and his wife will be at the festival Friday night..so Friday and Saturday night are spoken for..

I've been feeling pretty good for about 4 weeks now..I have a few bad days btu the PMA has been high for a reason. I had a young lady approach me about 3-4 weeks ago..she will be known here as cafegirl34. She's hot, she's never been married, she owns her own house, drives a sharp Mustang GT which she keeps in pristine condidtion. All the guys here go ga ga for her..and out of all those guys she picked me..now for the kicker, she has a boyfriend. They live together..our interactions have been strictly via email, and longing glances in the cafe, daily chit chat, and very, very, good emails..of course I've made my position clear that I won't be OM and that she should make a decision. It's clear that she is not happy and is looking for better and I am clearkly the better. It's been a really good opportunity for me to use my DB skills and it's also been a good opportunity to feel the new me in a hopefully developing R...we will see..it's also been good that things are slow...it's good for both of us. I had my D a few hours last night..it was nice. I taught her to say, "I have the best sugars in the whole world"
she is a cutie..the light of my life..she is my purpose..

Mediation on Wednesday and the permanent visitation starts that day too..

Mikey, you little devil. You mentioned something briefly about a lady a while back then left it....Ha ha. There seems to be something in the air with us that have come to the party forum and meeting other people.

I'll say this, it might not have saved my M, but DBing saved me. I said a while back, I feel like a magnet to the ladies and I certainly was getting attention and stuff, but now I've started seeing someone, it's whole different ball game. I've no idea what is going on really, seem to analyse stuff to much, the bad signals more so when there may not be any.

And Mike, I'm starting to question whether I've got a possible batchitt crazy on my hands or she is just tired and poorly from overdoing it and being busy at work. Ah well, will let it slug along for a while yet and see how next week pans out.

it's only emails, daily chit chat and glances Arthur. There are possibilities. I want let it go EA/PA simply because I will not be OM. it is against what I believe and how I am. I've never even dated 2 girls at one time. She came to me, I found out what her sitch is and now I wait..patiently. Thisis all new to me too and was hoping that maybe Kerry or someone may post here. I know Kerry is back in the game so I'm sure he has suggestions concerning all this. I will admit I have DB'd her pretty hard. I am clearly the better man and now she has choices. There's no ring on her finger..and if her boyfriend does not change then I thing she will leave for the better..and I think we all know how DAMS have trouble changing..so for cafegirl34 the choice is hers. I'm an honorable man, I won't play OM. I would not want that to happen to me and I won't do it to another.

I am pretty blown away that she approached me. That's a first in my life..I've never had a woman just approach me..

Sounds really good Mike,

I would tread lightly with this new lady. She is living with someone, they may not be married but does a piece of paper really matter when emotions are involved? Be careful I don't want to see either one of you get hurt. I see it as a very touchy situation and her moving from one relationship right into another may not bode well. JMHO and I my just be acting like a over protective parent.

Any time with your D must be just pure heaven. I loved when my kids were 2 to 4 years old. Everything is new and you see the world through their eyes. Its a wonderful experience.

Have a great weekend and take the suckers at your Texas-Holdem game for all their money.

M,



Yep, I have no doubt how you are, but what is this telling you about her? If she'll do it with you, she'll do it to you. This says she's lining her back pocket with another man so she doesn't have to be alone, IMHO. You are a great guy and do not deserve to be the OM. Absolutely not. I wouldn't communicate with this chick until she's available. I see flags....

AO

yes DAD...LOL I thought it was funny that you said over protective parent.. I like that..you can be my daddy..oh I'm treading lightly..lighter than lightly actually..I've questioned whether I'm sitting myself up for a fall and making sure that I don't. She must be over this guy before there can be anything else..I brought it here so I can hear others opinions on it. They may see things I don't..which is always healthy for me.

Yes..there is nothing like my D..Sons are great but there is nothing like a daughter.

Hopefully I'll get some cards this time..I was out early last time..we will see. It will be fun none the less.

Yes..

M,



Just that statement shows awareness - a very good thing. We all come out of this D stuff bruised and battered, looking for validation. Needed reassurance that we are OK - that can only come from the opposite sex. (this is a lesson taught to me by a wise friend who has been my rock). Getting that validation is good and necessary.

But that doesn't stop us from worrying about you.

AO