that damn wife of mine is having a birthday party for our son tomorrow and of course i'm not invited (i had one for him last week). so of course I said to her "why am I not invited ?
It's not unsual for separated or divorced people to celebrate these things individually.
Based on the fact she doesn't want to be married to you, want's a divorce, and tells you she hates you (even if you insist she doesn't), I'm kind of surprised that you would expect her to invite you.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I didn't expect her to invite me. I know that only 10% of divorced couples remain friends, and that its common to celebrate individually. however, the only reason I wasn't invited was because I haven't signed the papers. immature but that's my .02
everything she's done in the past 3 months has had a lack of maturity to it.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
(root) as you can probably infer from reading my story, my wife is nasty for a multitude of reasons:
1)OM left her, she loves him 2)OM made up stupid reasons why he left 3)OM's girlfriend is being a d!ck to her 4)OM got her pregnant and wants nothing to do with her or the baby
oh lets not forget
5)I didn't sign the papers
as you can see, a lot of things are taken out on me. not counting that she's getting ultra hormonal and emotional
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
(root) as you can probably infer from reading my story, my wife is nasty for a multitude of reasons:
1)OM left her, she loves him 2)OM made up stupid reasons why he left 3)OM's girlfriend is being a d!ck to her 4)OM got her pregnant and wants nothing to do with her or the baby
oh lets not forget
5)I didn't sign the papers
as you can see, a lot of things are taken out on me. not counting that she's getting ultra hormonal and emotional
BC your wife is nasty to you because she can be. You accept it. Leave her alone and let her stew in her own mess for awhile. The things you listed above are HER problems. She will get over it, or not.
Just continue being a good dad and a good person, but let her be. As long as you are around, she will spew her venom and focus her anger on you, not at herself for the mess she has created. As long as you are willing to make excuses for her, she will continue to treat you that way.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
By expressing anger about this (calling her "damn wife"), and asking her why she didn't invite you, it makes it sound like you did expect her to invite you, or were disappointed she didn't. You continue to have very strong emotional reactions to her.
This indicates you aren't emoitonally detaching. Having an emotional reaction to all this will kill off any chance of reconciliation. If you don't detach, by the time she does come out of this, you will be too angry and bitter with her to ever reconcile.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
3)OM's girlfriend is being a d!ck to her 4)OM got her pregnant and wants nothing to do with her or the baby
Well, tough luck for them....
As long as OM's girlfriend is with OM, she will have to deal with your wife. Also, OM has 18 more years to deal with your W because they will have a baby together.
Legally and financially OM will have responsiblities.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
