Hi Lwb... well we weren't sure where we were going to stay there was hardly anything left! So We got All star Sports this time. We could have done the Wilderness one but it was $2500 more, and that's not worth it when you are hardly in the room to begin with.
Yes I did see that, at least there giving something away for a change
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Hi I just booked Disneyland for Thanksgiving I have never been at the Holiday Season! I have invited the husband to go and he really wants to go!! He will be in a wheelchair but the kids would be so ecstatic if he actually came!!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Im going to journal a bit because Im so sad that it feels like we are on a downward spiral again.
H and I have been doing fine, and Im realizing this because I haven't turned him down for S since he's been home until the other night. This was becuase my son was sick and I was just starting to get sick and have not slept in two night. He was really mad and actually got out of bed and went downstairs. Was cold and mean the rest of the next day. He was supposed to take Sunday off, and didn't. He could have, and didn't. This is so disturbing to me, as we hardly get to see him because if work, which I totally understand and then he actually has an opportunity to stay home and doesn't.
Hardly spoke to me last night after he got home, He said he had meetings all over tomorrow. I told him he wouldn't be able to take my car because S2 has school.
Well I woke up this morning, CAR GONE!! he left me his car seat.. which means he wants me to drive the truck (its too big, I've never driven it.) PLUS S5 is having another wave of sickness, he couldn't swallow this morning, so I definately can't take the truck becuase its a two seater. Didn't even wake me this morning to tell me so I didn't rush around getting the kids ready. I tried calling him, and either his phone is off or dead.
I know this may all sound so trivial to some, but this is just another issue I have with him. Being so inconsiderate, avoiding me instead of dealing.
He doesn't have his priorities straight, I know he has to go out and make money, Believe me I know, Ive been with him for almost 20 years, I know. But something has to give. He's losing his family slowly but surely and doesn't even seem to care.
He has got to make time for us, and for the kids. I've just about had enough. Ya, going to disney is great, but If I could have him home on the wkends or even just on Sunday for the whole winter, I would take thaa instead of a trip anywhere.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
TAL, I'm so sorry things are not going so well for you. Sometimes I wonder if the marriage ever truly heals. It seems what we give and give, but get little in return. Hang in there. I think the stress of him being away from home is as hard on him as it is you.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Tal, I think Yoyo might be right here. This is how he feels close to you. It sucks that he can't see that you have needs too, and that you can't be there 24/7.
((((((Tal))))))
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Yup its been tough. He was bettter yesterday UNTIL.... He called me at 10am and told me my car BLEW UP!! I couldn't believe it. He was stranded out in Maryland. This car has been a nightmare from day one, I have put so much money into it.. my warranty won't cover the turbos so its done! Problem is I still owe $8200 on it... UHHHH... So he didn't get home until late. He had to rent a uhaul and tow it home. I'd like to take a hammer to it.
Anyways, Thats the story. I am trying to buy another car, but with the economy the way it is its been hard. I did get approved for a used Ford Explorer.. its a 2006 and only has 13k miles on it. So I may go for that. I really want this other car.. its a Buick Enclave but of course its more money.. we'll have to see.
Its crazy,If I didn't have bad luck I wouldn't have any luck at all!
Things were better with Us last night, I think we were both just tired and stressed and didn't have the energy to have an argument.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sorry about the car, TAL. If it's not one thing, it's another. I hope you can get something for it. I once burnt up the engine on a Mercedes. They offered me money for the "carcass".
I'm also sorry to hear that H chose work over QT with his family. I can truly empathize with you on that one. The lack of QT in the beginning of my sitch is what ultimately did us in, I believe.
However, there was/is a reason why our Hs 'pick' work over time with the family.
Have you read "For Women Only" by Feldhahn? If not, pick up a copy from the bookstore, buy it online, or borrow it from the library. It's a real eye-opener. It was for me at least, and for many other DBers here also.
If you have read it, then try to remember that H isn't necessarily choosing to work. I'm willing to bet he would much rather be with you and the boys, but he can't because of his very strong desire and need to provide for you guys.
Your need for QT is very important, too. I am not dismissing that. Just saying try to remind yourself of something - When you feel upset about H working instead of staying home with you and the boys, he isn't doing it to hurt you. He isn't doing it to neglect you. He IS doing it because he LOVES you.
Hang in there, sweetie, and I hope your little guys feel better soon so you can get some rest!
(((((((Tal)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
