Yes I totally agree, that is an appalling way to behave in front of your kids.. what planet is he on? Your kids are old enough to notice that and think he's coming home, but too young to realise nothing has changed and he is being an idiot. Yes...when I asked you why you were mean to him, I was thinking, that as you have kids I guess it would make you have to consider giving him a 2nd chance?(or maybe we are on chance 10 by now!?) but he would have to beg for forgiveness for sure.
If he was behaving like that... makes me wonder if his A has ended. Who knows hey!?
BUT.. did you have a good time in NY? Was WOog fun to hang out with?
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Your D asked that? Oh the poor girl. Do you think the X might have said something while you were away?
Your stbx seems to want you when he can't have you and when you wanted it to work he wasn't too interested. DAM! But sometimes that's the way they roll isn't it.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Girls, I can tell you with all honesty, I believe he doesn't "want me". That is why I am getting mean and mad at him for being like this. Because he is testing to see how much he affects me still. Plus he was jealous of me making this trip. I could tell. This behaviour is not good for the kids. I am sure he hasn't told them anything. But they are "translating" everything they see the way they want to. He still wants to play "happy family". I cant get that. K
Yes, Woog and I had fun. He is definitely a Prince and a gentleman. If only that ocean wasn't in the way -SIGH!!!- S
Hi K! I am glad my friends had fun together. You two deserve some happiness.
My H acts like he cares in front of the Ds too. I think you are right about them wanting to know if they still have an effect on us. They like to control things and they don't seem to like losing control.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I'm so glad you are back safely, got to meet Woog and had a wonderful trip!
I'm sorry about STBX's behavior as it is boorish - especially in front of the kids, but you are strong and your kids will see that in you. When the time is right, they will understand.
It is just so awful that the real casualties of any D end up being the little ones.
I'm so happy to hear that your trip to NYC was fun and that you and Woog got together finally. I never had any doubt that he would be a perfect gentleman. AWESOME!
I would love to get my hands on your STBX's throat and squeeze the life out of him! What a complete dumba$$ to act like that in front of your children. As if you are a happy couple playing and flirting and touching. That can be so damaging to the children's psyche's. That was demonstrated by your D's question. She asked a natural question based on his behavior. I hope she lets it go quickly.
Your son didn't have anything to say about it? He seems to be the one that broods a lot about things. I wonder if he might come out with a comment tomorrow. Hmmmm.....
Well, we'll have to wait and see what he does about those papers won't we?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Good morning K. I am up later than I should be trying to catch up on work. My parents visited for the weekend so I got nothing done. Just wanted to tell you happy Monday! Hope you have a fabulous week.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
