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Hey Jen, Thanks for stopping by. Yes, I got the Eye of Horus on my right upper arm. Didn't hurt that much either!

Thanks for the compliment & advise. I always seem to talk more than him & I hate that.... but I also want to show him that I have been growing & learning. We shall see ....... the ball is really in his court. I hate to jinx myself, but I really think he will choose D - much easier than working on a M. He still says even if we get D - that we can work on our R. Don't know if I will be sitting here waiting for him though. We could also get a post numptual agreement - but if he doesn't have time for me - I don't want that.

But you have your own ball now, the new, improved, wiser MsMel. You keep working on yourself. A tattoo, huh!? Want to see a picture in the alt univ.
Cheers

Whatever you do don't put Polysporin on the tattoo....

Well, Coach - it's not really the new & improved me .. it's the me I was only 4 short years ago. Much wiser - you better believe it!!! If I can be grateful for anything that this mess of a M has given me in the last year - it's personal growth & understanding. And being able to look at things differently & know that I do have actions I can choose.

I don't know if I have my own ball or not - but we will see where it bounces!!!

That's a great statement. ((((((MsMel))))) Good for you!

ps just heard "Stuck in the Middle with You"

Well, what's up?

Rag on me on everybody else's threads then you run and hide. Come on out you big chicken.

Hey Coach - I'm not hiding - just don't have much to say. Tomorrow I have a DBcoaching session. It will be interesting to hear what she has to say, since I didn't follow her advise last time.

Oh, I see you caught the joke about you - no one else did!

Well, I had another DBcoaching session today. I thought Jody, would be disappointed that I didn't follow her advise. On the contrary she felt that it was a nice step forward to break the stale mate. Thanks Coach & Jen for all you encouragement & advise. Both of you were right on target! She also said I did a good job in some of the comments I made to my H. (Like saying that when we dated he was in control. So he did have that control in our R at on time). Strange that she admitted, that I have been a tough case. Basically, what I need to do is build on the friendship, be a bit flirty, have happy & positive energy when I'm around him, ask him for help with things. Also I'm supposed to let him make the next move.

Still the D question & what he will decide hangs over my head. Yet, I don't think that frightens me as much as it used to.

She said the same to me the other day, but actually our h's are behaving in a pretty similar way.

You sound like you are in a good place...

IMO, it's because you are not a typical female, one of the reasons I like you, you are pretty direct when you talk. You are just hard to get talking, maybe you are just shy or maybe you don't want to get hurt by talking about yourself. Maybe you view as prideful to to talk about yourself. You tell me.
One thing I have learned is to open up about what's going on in my head, heart and my world. That's why I go out of my way to try and talk with different women here, I hope it makes me a better friend, man, Dad and husband. I still talk to the guys it's just different.

You can do all that easy enough. Waiting for him will probably drive you nuts though.




I believe you but why would you say it doesn't frighten you as much now?
You're doing great. You have come a long way from a couple of months ago.
Cheers