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Maybe it's time to quit drinking!! or drinking so much!!

I really don't drink much, only started again since she left. It dulls the pain. I took the precaution of erasing her number from my phone. Hope it works

That's a better idea; 'cause I know I like a drink every now and again.

My WAW emailed my mom saying that she hopes that they could still be friends (pretty unrealistic view of divorce. So far my mom hasn't written back. Should she go dark too? or write her and say I don't think so?

Sorry you are man. I can relate, my wife told me last week that she doesn't love me anymore and has been unhappy for the last 6 years.

Hang in there. It is tough--It has been the toughest thing I have ever delt with.

From my short experience the best advice I can give is to give her space. This is tough as there will be a ton of thoughts going through your head. Work on some 180's. This has helped me and has changed my wifes attitude towards me.

Find something to do and focus on, if you don't you will drive yourself crazy. Try not talk about your relationship if you can for awhile. Whenever I do it seems to drive my wifer further away.

Hang in there man. I have to tell myself everyday to not give up and that my wife just does not know what she wants. It's difficult but if you want your marriage you need to hang on.

She texted me asking about how my interview was. so far I ignored it should I answer or just ignore?

From everything I have learned on this site, it is ok to respond, with respect and interest if they contact you first.
Just keep everything short and sweet and do not try to prolong the conversation out of neediness.

Thanks Native. I did answer when she called back, but kept conversation short w/ no "I love you" or "I miss you"'s

Its weird that you think your situation is unique, but it is a textbook example

It really is weird. If I hadn't read so many other people's situations here I would have no idea how 'textbook' my w's words and behaviour's are.

The support and resources of this online community is great.

ok she wrote that she misses me and "time to laugh at me...enjoy" should I call her now? or wait for her to call me?