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Hey ms lwb..

I love reading about life with your daughters, what they achieve and your joy in being there. It's always a comforting reminder of what is truly the best in life.

Find me in the alternate universe some time (if you want)!

*hugs*

Hey girlie..

Just sending a hug..

*hugs*

(((((Miss lwb)))))

Good for your little lady! I'm so glad that you don't have to be around the skanky OW now! Awesome!

I always enjoy reading about you and your babies. You are an extraordinary mother, my friend.

(((((More hugs)))))

((((lwb))) So glad to hear about your girlies doing great!! and YOu my dear are just making me smile

Halloween time is coming... can't wait for that either

Celebrating my birthday (9/24) over a span of a few days. Lunch with co-workers today, workout/steam room then lunch with my mom tomorrow, and then lunch with (ugh) H's sisters/mom on Friday. They called and asked, what's a girl to say? I am bringing my buffer (D4 ) so there will be no R talk. They love me, they hurt for me, they are reaching out. I love them, but am already sensing a shift (on my part) to detach a bit.

Going to bake myself a cake with the girls this weekend and have a little party. I won't see them on my birthday because I am working.

Speaking of work, I am focusing on making a change. If a new position doesn't open up here (meaning, something on days), I will be job hunting. Its time for me to switch up my life, get back on days (even tho I love my job) and not have to rely on H to watch them 4 nights a week at the house. Don't get me wrong, he can see them as much as he wants, but if I am home at night, he can leave after he sees them, instead of having to stay there til 1am or later.

You sound so good, lwb....

Thanks Donna. I find myself feeling more good than bad these days. Much more good. And when the bad hits, bouncing back is definately easier these days.

But, my friend, keep in mind, I have huge bumps in front of me: officially telling the kids, the official divorce, and watching H buy/fix up a place all for himself. You have already done all of these, and you are improving daily.

Hey lwb,

glad to hear you're feeling more good than bad. Me too. What a relief after months of drama.

Yes, telling the kids will be hard. Good luck with that.

lodo

I believe my H casually introduced a 'girlfriend' to my daughters last night. I have no concrete proof but its looking that way. I will not ask him, will not ask my girls (past what they told me on their own will). I am sure he introduced her as a 'friend', but whatever. How could I think he would do anything different? I am so stupid.

We just agreed to this (no one new for at least a year) last week.

I shouldn't be surprised.

I am their mother. I am their mother. I am their mother. Nothing will change that.

Hi lwb-

Happy Birthday!

You are their mother and an AWESOME one at that!! You sound good lady! I hate that feeling of knowing our H's introduced a stranger to our children. YUCK. But, I know now that my D4 and I have cemented a strong bond and no matter if OW comes back in our lives or another one comes along, she and I will not be parted. You have that bond with your girls. They may see another person or spend time with them in the future, but nothing will ever be as comforting as mommy's arms, mommy's understanding or mommy's love. You know that.

I know you have more bumps in the road that you'll have to go over, but they're bumps that you can get through. I'll email you soon.

Have an amazing day. You deserve it.

SueS