The problem is..i cant focus..it is consuming me..... I do keep busy with the kids. They have me running all the time.
Yes ..he is with someone who i became close with and was my best friend for last 1.5-2.0 years.
And..yes we work together... lol she looks like such a bitch... But it is extremely hard... she is thinner than I ..but everyone says she is not nearly as pretty and has no personality...(that makes me feel worse almost..being left for someone that noone feels is even hot!)
In my heart... I know he loves me..he has told me..and has shown me making love..so why is he connected with her...We cannot rebuild while she is in the picture.
No you can't rebuild with her in the picture. As far as looks go, well that only lasts for so long. Its inner beauty that means something, and If he can't see that, then too bad.
He's in a fog.. others will tell you the same. I know this is consuming you, I know, this is one of the worse things you will feel. Please do something relaxing, even if its taking a bath. Wait until the kids are in bed and just take care of yourself.
It does make me sick that she was your friend. How awful.
Why do they feel this way, I don't know. If anyone can give you words of wisdom its puppy.
I may not have alot of words to offer, but I will listen and help any way I can.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Dropping the rope is a saying used around here where we tend to be connected in a way that every little thing said and done in some way affects us. When the rope is dropped we feel a sense of release almost like a burden has been lifted. It allows us to move forward in the direction we desire. The rollercoaster ride has calmed and does not have as many peaks and valleys. The other side is that your H will notice you have a different spring in your step, you react differently to his interaction.
Wow. Just wanted to pop in and say how sorry I am. My H's affair was with a friend, just a playgroup/mom friend of mine, and that was so devastating. I can't even begin to imagine the double betrayal you are feeling. And to have to work with her? Oh man, you can't escape it, can you?
Try to rest, be selfish with your time (do what you want!), and love on your kids. They'll help you through!!
sandy, hang in there sweetie. you followed your heart, this time it didnt work, next time, your heart will think harder! hugs sweetie, talk to us when you need to!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Who knows what I should do...I definately have not been DBing all day.. Hubby and I have had heated texts all day.. I want to understand what he is feeling and how he can do this....
His main comment is something is missing for me...yea... your emotionaly bonded to OW...leave her.
I just dont know what to do.... I cant stop feeling sick...crying... I made eye contact with her 2 times today..i feel like she was smirking.... I hate her .....for taking my husband and ruining my family...
He wants me to not talk.. said ..I thought you were going to walk away...
I told him..I wont fight her for him..but I will fight you for US!!
We have so much invested..how can he think they are happily ever after.
He told me today ..Sorry you can find better....
What do I do...is it time to give up.....
I am to the point where I pray to not wake up every day....
