Can you hear the laughter and "attagirl"s emanating from out here in California? A truly 1st class stunt. You simultaneously, A) got to tell the OW exactly what you think of her, B) put the rumour mill to rest, once and for all, C) worked with your H on your team, D) lifted the spirits of everyone on this board by letting us live vicariously through you. You are awesome.
I'd imagine OW got the message loud and clear. She and her rumours are history now! Who would even believe her, and she's SOOOO not up to competing with you, in all domains, no less imaginative ability!!!
I know I'd be packing my bags if I were her (or at least dusting off my resume and looking into a disguise!)
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I know I'd be packing my bags if I were her (or at least dusting off my resume and looking into a disguise!)
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I only WISH!!! Unfortunatly, I just don't think she's very bright. Ugly and dumb, too (sigh).
H's little A had passive-agressive written all over it & I think he needed to find someone as opposite of me as possible. He told me that he knew he would have been able to take living with her for about a week before clawing his way THROUGH the door!
Yeah, it is. One of the results of this latest crap is that I've had to do some soul searching about the current sitch with H's work. I honestly don't think I can, or should have to, put up with him continuing to work in the same place with her.
Hi Tal- Tough sitch for sure-I don't think I would want/allow or whatever my H to continue to work with OW!! You'd always be wondering what was going on..and if you can get past that-then God Bless you! I know if/when H decides the M is worth a try and his A dies the natural death I'm told it should---I'm already thinking--change email/change cell phone #/get restraining order against her for any contact so I can land her in jail if she violates.. he he he!!! At least she doesn't live close anymore!!! sigh! Keep up the good work Tal--it's really looking like a bright road ahead for you! Pam
Hey Pam. We had a long talk on the phone last night about the job sitch. He says it wasn't bothering him to work with her before, as their shifts only overlap by 2 hours, she works in a different area, and hasn't tried to talk to him since he told her "stay away, it's over and I want to try to work things out with Tal".
He has been able to simply ignore her existance, and go on with his work oblivious to the fact that rumors are running rampant and she is scheming to get someone else fired so she can work the same shift in the same dept. as H. Now, he can't ignore it anymore, and I think he's very bothered by it too.
One of the things I told him that I worry about is that continued rejection of her leaves him in a vulnerable position. If she felt like it, she could manufacture some charge of sexual harrassment if he took any actions to counteract her scheming.
What was very cool about this conversation with him was that he referred to this several times as "our problem, not just his problem or mine". He said he's working on changing a mental habit of always thinking "I and mine" instead of "We and ours".
I think I was so shocked by this that I didn't really respond, but when he comes over today, I want to really let him know how much it means to me that he's working on the "we as a team/we as partners" thinking. What a huge difference that will make! Over the years, I have often been very hurt by a lot of the things he's said as though he had very little sense of "we".
His "we" thinking led up to him asking if I wanted him to take a different job right away. He's been offered one, but didn't jump on it because it is slightly less pay and he'd lose seniority. He had also wanted to get his foot in the door of working in an ER, so he didn't follow up on the job offer. He's pretty sure that the opportunity is still there.
That might be an option. Something to think about anyway. I read up on your great 180's in your thread. Figure out what works and keep doing it!!!
