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I don't think he wants you to do anything right now. I think you need to let him figure things out on his own.

Exactly give him his space right now. He is in his little cave and there is no use trying to drag him out yet.

We don't have another MC. That was the last session. Way to go out with a bang. . .grrr.

We are supposed to start doing IC now, until we both figure out what we want and then go back to MC when/if we decide to remain married. Our C said we need to get into IC asap to work on our individual issues "agressivly" so we do not lose momentum. Kinda hard to do when you're not SPEAKING!

Sorry. . .

He wants us to make a list of the top two or three things that would need to change in the other person in order for us to commit to the marriage. He also wants us to list how our spouse would be able to show progress in these areas. Again. . .impossible to do if we don't talk to each other.

I guess that might be part of why this NC is driving me insane. Because I feel pressed for time.

Oh I'm leaving him in his cage alright. It's scary in there!

Think of it as a science project...trial and error. Eventually you'll find what's best for you and your sitch

Yeah. If I get the chance to continue the course anyways.

We both have such little patience for the others flaws. I thought I was easing up and learning to let go but I guess not.

Daisy? Have you read The Four Agreements?

No. . .que es eso?

Really good book. I read it and now xh is reading it. Just a small book but amazingly good. Just Google it.