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Thank you sweet yoyo... Rain all wkend. Im going to walk the mall tomorrow just to get out of the house and finish up decorating here for halloween.

xxoo

Tal,

What mall do you walk to?
I want to hit the outlet malls there soon.

JAK

Hey jak.. just the local mall. nothing major. just need to get the kids out of the house...

so.... h calls me tonight, is in a bad mood I just say i hope he was doing ok and that we all missed him here...

Then in the same breath tells me he is going to go to "hooters' to remind me of home, is that supposed to make me feel better???

Why would he say something so stupid when he is so far away right now. sometimes i think he has his head up his azz. He just doesn't think.

BUT I didn't say anything, or freak out, he actually ended the call and I just said by, with no missing you's or ily's. It wasn't intentional, but i just didn't feel like saying it at that point after such a thoughtless comment.

this may all sound small, but this crap tends to set me back. I can't help that, but I didn't react like I would have usually acted which would have been to say "what the hell is that supposed to mean" I just said nothing.

Anyways, am i missing something here, if anyone is up right now, please explain this to me.

Hi TAL,

I think it was a pseudo-joke. My husband would say something like that but I doubt Hooter's would make him think of me. Either way, Hooter's is just a restaurant. It's not a strip joint or anything wild. So I wouldn't get bent out of shape over it.

I know your right, its just that its the last thing I needed to hear right before bed, when Im the one missing him.

No worries. I'm going to get the boys out of the house today, window shopping at halloween stuff.. I love it. Then maybe lunch with my mom.

S5 bday party is coming up, I booked it at the headless horseman hayride. He's had his bday parties there for the last 2 years. Its great. They actually have a "children's day" so its not scary and its during the day. I have to get prepared for that, and of course half of the people i invited didn't rsvp, which is a complete pet peeve of mine! so I will be making phone calls tomorrow.

Hope everyone has a good wkend.

MEN I swear !!!!

Hey look at it this way, he thinks your as good looking as they are at hooters.

JAK

Hey, that's a way to put a positive spin on it!

My W was so offended and put off by the very notion of Hooters that you would have thought it was a strip joint. She was down-right anal about it. She warned me in no uncertain terms to ever think about going to such a place. I wouldn't have anyway as a married man, and out of respect for her, but I have to think back upon that and laugh to myself now. Based solely on the known facts, if I had to put skimpily clad, but otherwise fully clothed young women serving beer and wings in a restaurant -- versus W, my wife and mother of two small children, getting naked and horizontal with another (married) man, I think I'd have to say the Hooter's girls would be the epitome of wholesome virtuousness by comparison.

Thanks Jak.. I did say something to him but along the lines of, it didn't make me feel too good and that although it wasn't really a big deal, considering his "history" I would rather him not go. OR go with me. he said it was nothing, and that the food was good, YA right, how freakin stupid does he think i am. i told him he's got enough "hooters" at home, enough for an army!

Later He called me and asked where I was, i said i was at the "men's hooters" checking out the dongs it was funny, I was laughing my azz off.

no but really, i was upset, but I got over it and went to community day with my mom and there was a guy there, 58 years old that has been teasing my mom about wanting to take me away to the islands alone. of course she puts him in his place and calls him a dirty old man. So he approaches me today and we were just kidding around and my mom went over to talk to someone else. He Actually came up to me and told me that if I was available during jan-march that he would love me to join him in the dominican republic.. I said if you can fight off my kids, my husband and my mother, and the fact that Im married, go for it. i just laughed, it was harmless, but it actually felt "good" even though he was older, someone else found me attractive.

Ya know having kids, and taking care of them, the house my H and the business, i slowly feel like im losing myself sometimes and i don't feel too womanly, just a mommy, so once in awhile its nice for someone else to notice that, that's not all that i am.

i don't think that's wrong, right? LoL

hooters I guess is the least of my worries.

I hope

I know exactly what you mean TAL. Your husband needs to take you out somewhere nice and let you feel like the sexy, wanted woman that you are. My H and I are out in the mountains again, just like we used to 30 years ago when we were dating. Those 25 years spent raising children nearly killed "us", or maybe it did kill "us". It was just luck that we resurrected the relationship and are now in the mountains on vacation again. And the kids are home taking care of the house.

Hello, Tal,

I thought I'd mention that I just made a comment over on the thread Theo's Interesting Divorce-Busting themed films 2 and I thought about you. One of the movies I mentioned having seen again today was Legend -- the soundtrack for which was mostly music by the group Yes.