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Dearest ((((((Where))))),

I missed you!

I can be soooo dumb sometimes, it's not even funny

I finally realized who is NL on FB!!!

Your D is so adorable and you're lovely, exactly the way I imagined you'd be!
And - I saw your artwork and loved it!

Good job on getting a job, BTW.

(((HUG)))

Hi W2G,
I'm sending lots of positive vibes your way. Your house WILL sell very soon.
I know what you mean about having a lot on your plate. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed myself since returning to work full time, taking care of S and taking care of a house. It can only get better. Good luck with your new job. Hopefully you'll get that raise you're hoping for.

HUGS!!!

(((((Beautiful Where)))))

Your house will sell, your house will sell, your house will sell.

Sending positivity from over here, and fingers crossed on the new job!

L. xx

Hello Beautiful ladies!

Thank you for stopping by my thread to read up on what's up!

Well, had another open house this past Sunday. H was here with D3 and I.. he is much better at speaking with the house hunters than I am... Had 4 different people stop in.. I would say that 3 of the 4 could be promising.. but I have thought that from other open houses we've had.

I really, really, really want to sell this house.. not sure if that has come across in my previous posts or not ha, ha, ha!!!

As for the job... I'm not sure what I think about it yet. As in all new jobs its awkward in the beginning while you're learning everything.. but I do think they probably need full-time help and I'm not willing to go full-time until I am relocated back downtown.. the commute and taking care of D3 all on my own.. while taking nearly 1.5 hours each way to commute makes the 5 day work we toooooooo long. 3 days is tough enough. So I think after this week (which they have very important clients coming in this week) I may speak to the head guy about this... because it doesn't feel good to feel like no matter how well I do.. that if they want someone full time I'm not measuring up, you know?

Now, as for H. I don't really like to talk too much about him.. because as I've said before I truly feel actions are more concrete than words with him.. he's said a lot of really great things lately.. like he tells me he loves me on a regular basis.. sends me emails with x's and o's or smiley faces.. calls me by my nickname.... has been spending more time with D3 and I.. and when he's not able to he makes a point of keeping in touch and letting us know what he's doing and that he's thinking about us.. and I KNOW these are actions as well as words.. but a big action to me would be to spend the night.. even if just on the couch... or move home... or something. I don't know if I'm explaining myself very well here... but sometimes, although the words are really nice to hear, they sound empty... but maybe that's just my self protection mode putting that spin on it?

Jen, my gorgeous Venezuelan friend!!
T, thank you so much for your "House deed" visualization! You're amazing!
Bear, I will think amazing thoughts for you to get the 950/mo apartment!!! Thanks for checking in.. I know you don't get on here often! Better yet, maybe come meet us on FB?
Stella!!! Thank you for stopping by and your wonderful comments on D3 (my pride and joy).. And the artwork you are speaking of.. I believe those are creations from our wonderfully talented Kalni!!!

(((((((((((((Everyone)))))))))))))
W2G

((((Gorgeous Where)))))

I know what you mean about actions speaking louder than words..... I wonder, are there any small things you could do to encourage him to spend the night? Have you invited him to? (I realise it's not a small thing, but I'm just wondering if he has a block about it of some kind).....another thing I wonder if whether he's making physical contact. Maybe that might encourage an overnight?

I'm sending good house and job vibes over to you. You always sound so great when you post, and I always smile at your H saying ILY, remembering how excited I was when he brought you Starbucks!

L. xx

Hi W2G...Lisa suggestion is great! Why not invite him to spend the night? Or you could invite him to dinner and drug his food

I'm sure yur house will soon sell....we are all sending out positive vibes so I have no doubt.

ps...I'm not Venezuelan but I'll take the gorgeous comment any day lol

Lisa, mmmmm Starbucks!! Thank you for the idea to suggest a sleep over. I'll let you know if an opportunity arose where I could do that.

Jen, I know you're Canadian but you've been in Venezuela long enough that you're kind of a Canadian/Venezuelan now!

Hugs,
W2G

That's ok

Did you intend a pun when you said..."I'll let you know if an opportunity arose where I could do that."

dearest Where,

so glad to hear about what is going on in your world! I will continue to visualize you handing over the deed to your house !!! and singing a joyful song while you do it!

are you and h still ... ML'in on a regular basis?

I know you are thinking actions speak louder than words. Is that an action that is still happening?

crazy idea: maybe he is scared he will lose his nuts or something if he stays in the Marital Home Which He Did Not Want to Return To Ever. Could you have a sleepover at a sexier location, like, a getaway hotel, or ... when is that condo ready? could you guys take a weekend together and maybe your momma could take care of lil where...?? just a thought???

LOVELOVELOVELOVE
T

Hey Where! You sound good.. but I can imagine how frustrating it is that the house wont sell. But he's still happy to sell it though, right? Well done on getting your job!!! At least it is something that fits around D3s day by the sound of it, which is great and I was mightily impressed you floated the idea of a raise at the outset, good for you.. you have to know your worth.

I love T's idea.. my ex was happy to stay overnight with me at a friends house, but totally against staying at our house. He only ever said this once.. we were about to sleep on a coach somewhere when I said about going to mine and his response was he was scared to and didnt want to mess me around.

So I guess it could be loaded with meaning and he wont allow himself to take that step. You are being amazingly patient thought, surely you will be rewarded, it continues to go in an upward trajectory from what I can see. Glad you back with us!

Ali xxx