Hmmm.. I'm torn Lisa.. I really am! If I ignore the fact that your CEO is being wonderful to you and your H is acting like a jerk.. I'd have to say I prefer H!
In my defense I have to add that it comes down to the smile. I love teeth and smiles (which is why I am wearing braces right now to correct my smile). A smile lights up a face.. and your H is radiating in this picture where as CEO is sombre. Maybe if you had a smiling picture of CEO I would have a different opinion?
But, I also want to mention that I think CEO's glasses are sexy. I find smart men sexy and glasses often make people look smarter. Witty, intelligent, happy/smiling, fit men are sexy to me!
You've had a few days in hand already of NC.. he knows you have a curry arranged and that he could come with you. He also knows that he is not in on Wednesday, so...the balls in his court. So although you said..
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Maybe I should contact him a bit. When I was a bit more proactive he was more responsive
...I dont think you should. I think this theory that he doesnt feel deserving, so you have to reach out all the time.. is sort of over compensating perhaps now that a year has gone by.. and also, its not allowing him to take responsibility for his choice and his decision. Its sort of like you're reacting like you are still in a relationship with him, but you arent. How would you treat a friend? Would you make it easy, keep stepping in, making the first contact?
My sister said to me.. ok, you could email/call him, he probably would respond, and you get to make that connection with him again, for a few hours.. but you're never going to know, as you just keep hanging there. The only way to know, is to allow him the space to own his decision and be responsible for it.
Sorry for over explaining, but I think tommorow you have an ideal opportunity to wait and see what he does. If you contact him, yes he will reply, yes he'll come and ...another year could go by!
Hugs to you, Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Hope you had a good day. I guess he may have emailed you and invited himself to this goodbye for Austin tommorow? Funny that she is going back to Austin, or is that just what you nicknamed her and I am a dunce !??
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
LMAO at the controversy between H and CEO. They both have very different personalities, so a photo contest is possibly a little unfair on them.
So, H sent me a short e-mail as late in the day as he could today comenting on the football and him playing football tonight, and saying I should have a good time at choir. He also mentioned tomorrow evening and said he'd call me after his course was done to arrange a time to meet. I'll reply tomorrow saying that's fine. There's not really much to report- it was the usual run of the mill mail from him hich didn't refer to stuff from Friday at all.
Not much else to report today. Al- yes, Austin is called Austin because she's moving to Austin (and that's where she's from originally!). Although I do quite like the name. She says she's got a gay friend who might be willing to donate me some sperm. Great news in case no other plans pan out!
