Yes, I do have hope. I know it doesn't look like it right now but I just can't see my life without him. I hope when the time comes for me to let go that I will know it & it won't be as hard.
I know so many people mean well but they somehow feel it would be in your best interest if they introduced you to this person or that person, etc.
I think this happens to many of us--we have friends saying maybe you should date, etc.
Honestly, you need to heal, give yourself some time. Dating is not going to make a person whole again.
I have no doubt that you, like many others, know in your heart what you want to do.
Gosh, dating would be the last thing on my mind if I were divorced.
I know of people whose spouses have died and within months, they marry someone else. I always wonder how they can do that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Nlt, If you don't feel comfortable dating yet, then don't do it. I know that I wouldn't want to date so soon after a D. You really should heal from the D before you start to date.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Thanks so much for checking in on me!! I really appreciate it. I'm not ready to date & I appreciate your opinions on this, part of me was wondering if I should but honestly I'm not over my H.
I had fun with my friend at lunch today. She knew that H & I were S but didn't know for sure if we were D'd yet. She gets to go to lots of functions & told me next time she went she would give me a call. She also told me if I needed little handy things done that her H would be happy to help me. Small things like plumbing & stuff like that.
I'm still working on little things around here that H needed to do but didn't. I've got a storm window that looks like it has fallen a little, I told H about it a long time ago but he didn't do anything so I'm going to look at it & see if I can fix it. I think I might be able to. I guess I'll try it anyway.
You don't realize how much little things that need to be taken care of that H usually did when you own a house. In an apt. you can always call maintenance but not in a house!
I still miss H very badly, I hope he is thinking about me sometimes!
OH yeah, I know what you mean about those little things!!
Last week, I had to repair a part in the toilet (I had to take the lid off and attempt to repair some parts in it) and I got it to work somewhat. I told H about it and he found something better that fixed it.
I have learned some, not all, things and how to repair just by watching what he does.
The one thing I will never do is climb on the hot roof and repair the a/c unit. Yep, they are on our roofs out here.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
WOW! I'm impressed about the toilet!!! That is one thing that I don't think I could do. I did change a washer in my faucet, I actually impressed myself. My Dad did tell me what to do & supervised but he let me do it b/c I needed to learn.
I'm like you, I've watched my H do so many things & I've also had to help him do so many things, hold this, get me that, hand me this, anyway by watching I have learned a lot.
A/C on the roof, that is different! I haven't climbed up on the roof either & I hope I don't have to, well I did when H was around & I got up there with him a couple of times but I don't like heights. The one thing that he used to do is get up there & run something down a pipe & unstop the kitchen sink. Well, I have that thing he used but I don't believe I can do that & I for sure can't do it by myself, it took both of us, me turning on the water hose & him on the roof. Hopefully that won't have to be done for a while.
