Yes I told her yes that I am going. No H talk from me unless she brings him up and even then I will try to avoid. I know she will tell him because she tells me when he brings up me..lol. The girl is really smart and has asked me why her brother is "so stupid" and that "he needs to grow up he's not a kid anymore".
I was thinking....maybe you could invite the little SIL to have lunch before you go to the show. You could take her to a nice place and let her feel like such a grown up. I bet she'd love it
And on the plus she'd def. tell H how much fun she had with her big SIL.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I was thinking about your sitch. I have a friend who has a 12 year old boy and he loves to be treated like he's older. I think a 12 year old girl would love to be treated to a "big person" lunch.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Today was a pretty good day. It started with H sending me random texts at 1am...lol. I thought he was drunk but he began texting me again in the morning when he got up saying he was upset that we didn't finish our convo because he fell asleep.
Then I went to get SIL who was excited about today. While driving to the Fair H began texting again asking now if I had some book of his (last week a cd...the week before a movie..lol). I told him not sure on the way to the fair with yr sis. I got "Oh, what fair?" I turned to her, "you didn't tell H?"...she said no. So I told him which one. He responded "No!! Awwww I'm missing it!!!". I just said sorry with a sad face.
Then when I got to the fair I noticed that a friend of ours that owns a gallery by the fair wasn't there anymore. So I texted him that info and he asked a few questions about it. Then I did pick up some business cards from vendors that I knew he would like.
It was still early when we were done with the fair so I took SIL for a nice scenic drive under the GWB on the Jersey side and threw some towns that have mega mansions as I know she likes looking at big houses. It was really nice bonding with her she is growing into such an intelligent young lady.
At one point she brought up H and started telling me that she is still upset and angry at him for what he has done. I told her that I am no longer angry at him and she just looked at me and said "really?". I reassured her that I got all the anger out of my system. We went back to my house so she could borrow a book and a hat and wanted to make plans for us to hang out again on another day.
It is refreshing that SIL and MIL are still so nice and welcoming to me. They are both on my "side" and hope that H will want to make things work eventually. So I guess that is a good thing as I hear of many people on here that their In-laws are nasty after a seperation.
