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ITt is Monday morning... and feeling much better had a rough weekend though I asked for more money from my husband so my daughter could gert braces and of he course he said no... which made my daughter feel down..I really wanted to lay into him but I remembered Charlene's ZIP THE LIP..just told him I would pray that somehow God would provide.

I told him I did not want to fight with him and he said he did not want to either.Unfortunately Texas does not have a legal separation so our support from him is verbal. Dont know what else I can do unless I file for divorce.

He does give our daughter money whenever she asks him so I guess it is better than nothing..

My goals are getting done. got new anti meds which seem to be kicking in. Have done alot of praying and starting to get a new peace within me to keep going..small voice in my heart says Dont Give Up.... I believe it is God speaking to me.. so I will keep praying..

I just hope I can fulfill my obligations on our own..food..apt... gas etc.etc.etc.

thank so much for responding to me BND.... I think you are very wise and a caring woman who has been thru this journey yourself and now you wnat to share it with other people who dont understand what is going on.

I pray all is fine in your marriage.... and your journey gives us all hope.God bless you and your family.

IRMAT:

MY cousins live in TX and before their divorce was ever final, she was getting financial support from him as directed by the courts. I am not familiar with the laws there but I know she was getting $$$ from my cousin because he was cancelling his family from the auto insurance, not paying the utilities and the utilities being turned off, etc.

With regard to the braces--he said no. Did you ask him to help pay monthly to the orthodontist or does he think you need all of the money upfront? Here, braces are just over $4000 for one person. I know, all of my kids have had braces the last three years and they finally got them off over the last 8 months or so.It is every expensive.

IRMAT, I haven't posted to you before (I don't think) but have read some of your posts so forgive me if you have already posted this.
I notice you have 1 son and 1 daughter but 7 g/children and even a great grandchild so my question is who do all these g/children belong to and how old is your daughter because braces make me think of a girl who is around 14?
So does your daughter still live with you.

I have a little g/son and he is the light of my life,he brings me so much joy. Do you see your g/children very often. I haven't seen you post about them.
I am glad you have some new meds, I think they take a while to kick in tho.
Do you work or have a social life and or hobbies sometimes if we can emersh ourselves in outside activities it helps to take our focus of the situation for a while. That also helps us be a little detached which is a good thing.
Take care.

I had my first baby when I was only 15yrs.old... I know a baby having a baby.. but thank God I have her in my life now, rather than abort her.She has been a God send.My first husband died and I had 2 children from him..then I married my current husband and we have 2 kids together. Oldest daughter is 37 oldest male is 32
then I had another boy by my husband... he is 24 and our baby is 13. He does give me child support every month and every time my daughter needs something extra.

my oldest granddaughter is 20 that is why we have a greatgranddaughter.I am only 53 and already a greatgrandma... no wonder my husband started feeling old....I know I would not trade them all for anything. my husband still talks to all of them occasionally.... and they miss him very much .. he is the only grandpa some of them have ever known....

Anyways that is a short recap of our family... thanks for asking and hopefully my meds will kick in soon.. talk to ya'll later I am at work and have to get offline so they wont say anything....

wow! sorry I hope you didn't mind me asking. ai just couldn't work out the signature line.

wow! sorry I hope you didn't mind me asking. I just couldn't work out the signature line.
Thats quite a family but they must be a blessing to you now.

dont mind telling people of my family.... I love them all very much...but yea I was a "yung un" nice talking to ya'll going home to my daughter....talk at ya later
BE BLESSED IN JESUS NAME

Today is our anniversary of 25 yrs.feeling very sad and depressed,I called him and told him I was calling because it was our anniversay...and even though it was not per say...I just wanted him to know I was thinking of him....

He told me he was planning to call me later....and he said I could and would never forget this day....I told him our family was still praying for him and most times he will say that is good.. but today he changed the subject.

But I have faith that the Lord, in his due time will heal us and reunite us.. my daughter always says things like when WE as in all 3 of us get back together we are going to be better than before....He still speaks to that other woman.... but like Charlene Steinkamp says that she is just a distraction right now... I hope and pray she is right
He's been in MLC for about 1 1/2 yrs. since Feb.07

And honestly if they love each other as they say they do,why do they not live together.... to make a life together... she lives in my state he lives 900 miles away...

she will not move in with him as long as he is married to me....and so far,thank God no papers ... yet.. I will have to keep praying.. always says when we used to talk about R he would always say I DONT KNOW maybe he really doesnt know what he wants right now .... keep us your prayers.

Just keep focusing on you and what you can do for yourself.

As for your H living with her...sometimes it does not happen right away. It took my H almost two years from the time the A began for him to move out and in with her.

I will and I have.....just seems like such a waste to spend that much time with somebody and think that you knew everything about them and they do this....but I will keep trusting God for restoration... I know you have been waiting for a while... and I look forward to the day when your H comes home, it looks like you are well on your way to that.... seems like any day at times... he just seems so scared to do that for some reason... but I know it will happen to your family... Be Bessed in Jesus name .... you are an inspiration to me....