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well soon when you get your iPhone you will never be out of touch. This thing is great. Hope yu have a great time there. I will be avoiding la this weekend. I have been down there too much. the weather will be great though.

Enjoy. Where ever I end up Ill drink a thoast to you as well

Hi guys! This weekend was great, a whirlwind. I got to reconnect with my friend and her H, and we had a blast with good food and BEAUTIFUL weather. I was sooooo tired yesterday, but I went to bed early and got a great night's sleep...



H has been inundating me with phone calls and text messages, he needs to get into the apartment and "meet" with me about things. I'm playing it very cool because I feel cool towards him, and have a lot going on. Since I've been less communicative/less accomidating, he's been MUCH nicer--surprise!

I may see him tonight, if he's willing to come over after I'm done with going out to dinner with friends. I'm as detached as I've ever been--I don't feel like I need to hang on his every word and action, and I honestly don't feel one way or the other about seeing him.

ahhhhhhh- sigh of relief...isnt detachment amazing!?

im so happy for you- you are filling yourself up...

sounds like seeing your H will be great no matter what bc you are so clear!

(((Lost)))

That is so great, stay on this path as it is obviously working! I'm thrilled. Keep us updated.

Not much to report on, folks. H and I have been communicating over e-mail about our separation agreement (my idea--since I have no time to meet). It's going OK, much easier to have measured responses that way. Plus, he actually thanked me for getting back to him. What?! He hasn't thanked me in months. He called and texted me again yesterday.

I will see him at some point this week, possibly twice, not sure when yet. I'm not really thinking about it, H is now just kind of like another good friend.

I'm not usually a very materialistic person at all, but...I got two things this week that have been making me grin from ear to ear:

1)A really hot new pair of jeans--you know the kind that make your butt look amazing?

2)My new iPhone, which is like a toy for grown-ups. I (heart) it.

Other than that, the weather is beautiful here and I feel pretty da*n good. I'm busier, socially, than I have been since I was an undergrad, and yet at the same time trying to be serious about projects that I want to challenge myself with. I'm trying to "seize the day," with a so-so success rate--I still struggle with achieving balance, and social things tend to win out every time. I guess that's not a bad thing? It's just weird cause I've tended to be kind of a loner in the past...

Anyway, I'm thinking about y'all and sending my love...

wow!! of course it is good to be social especially if you were a little bot of a loner...its all new so it may slow down and you may find you lie it super busy that way.

either way- you are trying new things and really carpe diem'ing it!

yay- you sounds so clear and happy!

and being your H's friend is a huge step for you and him. its already making him relax.

I am SOOOOOOOOOOO happy you got your iphone. you are going to love it because they rock. I have not been able to stop playing with mine yet. I like where you are at mentally and I think that I am getting there my self.

I am not really a guy that gives a damn about the way that I look but a while back I too got a great pair of jeans and I love them, I imagine yours look better then mine do. (yes that was flirting but hey its all in good fun)

Well anything cool going on in San Fran this weekend, it looks as if we are waiting until Tuesday or Wednesday to see what is up with NOLA. I really want to go so weather better play nice.

Lost, you sound so great! You are handling things so well. I love buying new jeans and the iphone sounds like lots of fun.

Really pleased you're having a good time at the moment. You set an amazing example of GAL!

I am thinking of hitting up San Fran, saturday night. might try that bar you told me about a while ago, any other sugestions? I am glad that you are doing well. Have agreat weekend. sorry thats a bit early but I have 4 days off so I am startign early.