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Hey there Whitney,
When are you going to Nepal??
I'm also doing the Everest base camp and the Anapurna circuit in Nov.
We have the best GAL's on the planet.

I have to say, i'm the exact same. I'm only at 3 months in about 4 days, but it is hard to do fun things with the kids and not have W there, I feel for you, I really do, hang in there, you've got this far

Thanks onedge. I thought it would start to get better but I find its getting worse. I am really going to try hard not to contact W and see if that helps me.

Clayton I am going to be in Nepal the first week of October. I saw your thread yesterday about going to Everest. All my W said was why did I descide to do that trip.
My W has calculated EVERY single word to me since 9 months ago. She has never given me a single word of encouragement, hope, or caring. Only in the last month has she even used the word thank you. She is decent to me and sometimes nice. I am the best I am, but that seems to spark no interest at all.

Also for the first time in 9 months I am feeling really lusty for my W. We had a great sex life througout our marriage. We even ML the night before she dropped the B. Go figure. I tried to flirt a bit with my W about 4 months ago and she was ok with it. Now she scolds me, so I have stopped.

Hello,
Ok it's been a couple of days without speaking to my W. Someone please tell me I am doing the right thing. It's sooooo hard not to contact her. I know I have to do this to help start healing but boy is this hard. Even though we have been apart for 9 months we still have some form of contact almost everyday due to the kids. My W appears to have moved on, at least that is what she is saying to everyone. That is how she is acting as well. It looks like despite all my DB efforts I have a W that D is what she wants 100%. It's so hard as I am doing all I can and have had no success. I have separated friends that are doing everything wrong yet are having success with getting together to try to work things out. My W never really came to me to let me know things were not good, she just left. Yes, I know I was not really listening to her. I have become a typical ex that has done everything I know possible to become a kind, appreciative and caring H. I just don't get how that hold absolutely no interest from her at all. Yes I have read almost every post on here and understand how she "was" feeling when we were together. I just don't get how we at least don't even talk about anything. We have two of the most beautiful children together.
Just down again today.

Today is hard as I used to live in NYC. My W and I lived in the West Village and were there on 9/11.
I just sent W a text saying "remembering today...with you". She sent me back a smiley face. That pretty much sums it up for us.
Yes, I know it's better than nothing but it seems like we are at the end of the line with possibilities of R. She just seems to have moved on without a single regret.

I had the kids last night and it was great. Having kids is the greatest gift on earth. They just love you unconditionally.
When I dropped them off at school my D5.5 started to cry and did not want to let me go. It just rips me apart to see that. I ache so hard with the new life I have with my kids. I have the typical situation of every other weekend and on Wednesday nights. My W is always giving me more opportunity to see them more and I do. I just am hurting that this is going to be it for the rest of my life. I soooooo don't want this life with seeing my kids once and a while. I want my family back and to see them every day. I swear I must have the only WAW that is the way she is. She is happy, telling everyone and showing everyone that she has never been happier. Has not slipped on a single word for 9 months. How can she love her kids so much and not at least have this all have some effect on her. All her friends just tell me she has moved on and that I should do the same. I don't get it.
I misssssss my kids and don't want this. I just hate that there is nothing more we can do other than all the DB stuff. It's really hard to have to voice at all.

Really hurting dad.