So how did you to talk? Obviously you flirted with him. Be a little like that Jen from '98 but the better '08 version. Use your female powers on him.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
BE + DO = HAVE, Yes act on your great thoughts. Be the woman he fell in love with. Do the things he wants from his wife. You will have the start of a blessed marriage again.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
How can I "show" him when I get these type of messages "I take D home and off I go. Be there areound 8". He said that he wasn't going to stay because I'd be there and when I asked him about the computer issue he said we'd solve it tomorrow.
In our M he said I didn't think enough about him. Especially when he'd have a late class. Sometimes he'd arrive home hungry and I didn't have anything cooked. I was angry with his attitude and never bothered to listen to him and have something ready for him to eat. Now, I offer him to stay to eat dinner with us and he doesn't want to. It's usually "I'm good".
I guess he's not ready for the meals together. We were doing that pretty regularly about 6 weeks ago and now it's stopped again. I understand why but it still hurts.
He also said I wasn't appreciative enough that nothing was ever good enough for me. I see it now and I've always been a little spoiled. Being spoiled doesn't work well when your 37 YO does it?
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I have started to be more appreciative and agreeable but I need to be more consistant. Vernetta told me that I can't thank him for everything because it'll be seen as fake but I should really make an effort to include it when appropiate.
Today we were discussing what time he'd bring D home...no arguement. But at the end I said "it doesn't matter because it's not as though she's started school yet. Bring her home when she's ready. And let me know if you chage your mind about dinner"
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I sent him a message telling him "I have my usual Thursday evening plans tomorrow ok" about 10 minutes ago. Based upon past Thursdays I'll need to remind him again tomorrow. Once D goes back to school I don't think I'll be able to continue with them but I can enjoy them while I can right!?
Oh and a mutual friend is having her baby baptized this weekend I believe but not sure if he'll want to go. I hope we do though so it'll give me a chance to NOT stick up his butt at a social gathering
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
You know that he will come around again, it just takes time, so plan now and execute later. You can fill your mind with ideas and plans now and then when he starts to stay longer when he drops your daughter off, or stays for a beer, or even dinner, you will have a plan in mind and things will go much smoother. So just be patient for now and glue your plans and goals in your mind.
Thanks. Something to think about. Or maybe more do than think right?