Treese, Yes, you are making the best of a bad situation. But, you know what? I think you are doing well for what life has tossed at you. Go out, have some fun. You need that. I think you will find that being out, away from the house and a change of scenery will do you good.
As for your h, that's his problem if he doesn't have electricity. He needs to "rough it" for a while.
Time to take care of Treese and your children. Keep up the good work and also moving forward!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yes, you are doing well for what was dealt to you. Seriously, you need to visit 40/60. Those women there (and men) really have a way to swing those 2X4's....................you can do it, (((Treese)))!!!
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Treese visits there from time to time. I believe she's a member of 40/60, just as some of the other posters that post here are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Treese, How are you doing? What is happening in your sitch? Inquiring minds want to know! Hope things are getting better for you!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Hi All......haven't been on much lately.....just a bunch of the same old crap...and believe me, it's getting old.....
H has been to see son....taken him on Fridays mostly but bringing him back quickly on Saturday mornings so not to interupt in his outings with OW....I've really gotten used to it....but the other day it hit me....the fact that he is so comfortable in his life now and what he is doing....and it is really hitting me that our marriage is really over....it scares me....I don't want to be without him but his actions are that he is so okay without us and living on his own....sad....I have gotten a life, tried to get used to him not being at home also....but truly....I miss his terribly.....I want to hug him...smell him.....all of it....
My daughter will be going to the homecoming dance this weekend...I met the boy she is going with...he goes to another school....turns out he is the son of a girl my H graduated with and I with her sister....what a small world...she was talking about H and telling me to tell him hello....she doesn't know the sitch and Im not going to tell....it's too painful....we all used to get together at each others houses when the kids were little....everyone knows us as US....forever.....D16 still isnt talking much to H....she is actually doing a paper for school on cheating.....her idea....I will be interested in reading it.... she still doesnt smile much and has a hard time trusting but we're working on that.....S11 is also starting to be affected....he has been holding things in and they are starting to come out....especially when it has to do with money.....I told him not to worry but he's only 11, doesn't quite understand...
still no results on the paternity tests.....still have lots of anxiety about that....dont' think I can get rid of that until the results are in....and H doesn't understand why it will affect me again...cause I already know....WTF? He really is living in his own world....it has no problems....it's fun....he has OW....his kids...and doesn't appear to be bothered by not talking to 2 of them....
I know I'm complaining...just haven't gotten this off my chest in a while...needed to vent.....
And anyone know where yellowrose is????
Thanks for listening.....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Thanks for the update and I do know how frustrated you are.
Yes, I do know where YR has been. She has had a lot going on some having to do with neighbors and her grand-daughter, I believe, has moved back near them and she has had other things to deal with which have prevented her from checking in like she used to. I am sure when things settle down, she will come and read your thread.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Here I am!!! I check in when I can, like MWG says I am trying to help out my neighbor whose H has been arrested. I feel bad for her so I help when I can. Yes, my GD is back in town and we haven't seen her yet but will have her this weekend. So it will be so busy!!!!
Treese, I see that you have grown so much in reading your threads. Believe it or not it is good that you are thinking the way you are about your h because to me it means that you are becoming detached somewhat. You need to do that to find peace in your life. Remember things change fast in some cases of MLC so know one knows what the MLCer is thinking. I too thought my M was done and over but it turns out that it is better than ever. Give it time and PLEASE check in!!!!
Im so glad you checked in.....I'm trying to hold it together but some of my days are hard...and I can't stop myself from crying...I just get totally wore out....exhausted being Mom, dad, chauffer, cooker, cleaner,launderer....you name it....I"M TIRED!!!! Oh, and son was sick last week with the ear infection again...I took care of that....D16 is having surgery on Monday....tonsils removed....I had to take her to the specialist, to the hospital to give blood, etc....and H just gets to do his thing.....grrrrrr..
What hit me the other night was when I went out to meet some friends for a few hours and my son says to me...."mom, you go out every night with your friends""....I said, "no I don't there are other things that take me from home...like grocery shopping, meetings, etc....but I actually felt bad...I have sat in the house for 15 months waiting for a change and now that I'm getting a little bit of a life....I feel like I'm leaving my kids....I shouldn't feel guilty....I still take care of them...I still love on them....& when H gets him its all fun and games....but he doesnt get the sadness from the kids that I do...Its all crap.....when I went out the other night son called me about 20 mins after I left saying his stomach was killing him...now....my guess was that he was afraid I wasn't going to return...but we had that talk....when I got home his stomach was bothering him but it's not the first time that has happened....I am so mad at H for putting my kids through this....he really does not know the affects this situation is having on our kids....its frustrating....and I'm drained....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I know how frustrating it all can be. I did the same. I did feel guilty when I went somewhere without my D. I had to keep my sanity so I had to go. I couldn't take care of her if I was off my rocker!!! You have to have a break or you will go down hill so fast. Don't feel guilty just have special time with your kids. They will remember who was there for them and who held it together!!!!!!!!!!
