Thursday is "our" wedding anniversary and my roomie and I were going to do dinner and go out, but I told our softball coach that I would play Thursday night. I think she's upset with me, and while I understand, I am not sure if I want it to be a "normal" day or "commemorate" it like we did with hers.
So last night we were talking about the week ahead. I invited my preggo friend over for dinner Wednesday night and forgot we were supposed to go to a picnic. I don't have Peanut and I spaced so I told her I'd reschedule with my friend. Then I got the "oh never mind," ....
Then we were talking about softball and she doesn't want to play this week. I told her I said I was playing both games and that's when the anniversary dinner came up. "I thought we were going to dinner"
I told her I forgot, but that I wasn't sure I wanted to "commemorate" the day. I think I want it to just be a Thursday.
"well we did for mine!"
Yeah but it was her first one and she was sad, etc. We did it because she wanted to. I don't. I thought I did, so I can understand why I am confusing I guess but...
Maybe I am just not used to living with someone and worrying about another adult's feelings. I mean, Peanut - I've kind of got it down with her, but another adult...
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
KS: It is a woman's perogative to change her mind. And this is YOUR call.
I had difficulty with the anniversary the first couple of years. Expectations, of him remembering. My own raw feelings. But it goes away. Hard not to "think" of it a tiny bit now but I usually don't try to do anything. The second year I did go to dinner and a movie with my daughter. By the fourth year I had Josh so I didn't want to do anything special on that day.
Personally, I'd go to baseball. But only you know. And your friend should respect your wishes even if you did change your mind.
I let my friend move in and she agreed to pay rent but she's kind of needy. She's 6 months behind me in the divorce arena so I know we're at different places but I had finally adjusted pretty well to being alone. Now I don't get to and it's been 2 weeks.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I get it. I would not want a needy roomie right now. I love my own space so much. I love Ashley, but she's hard to live with. When she is not here I do much better. No expectations of what somoene else should do - with me - either I do it or it doesn't get done. SIMPLE!
Good luck with it. Boundaries are HUGE and so is communication.
hows about having an adult conversation with her (I suck at these so i am beign really hypocritical here...Baboo and i just had one last night and to get me to talk sometimes is like pulling teeth)
why not say hey roomie i just kind of like having my own space no offense at all but we share rent not a relationship
so
ummmmmmmmmmmm
im off to play softball!!!
sounds like she is needy don't get sucked in because she will leech you right back into spots you don't want to be in
well her mother is a total B****, she's got issues, and while I know they aren't mine to fix, I'm not willing to be a total B to her.
She's not a bad person. Just needy.
But her being needy with me, is almost better than the alternative which is for her to seek it out elsewhere in our town if you know what I mean. Good point!
It's funny. She's got her masters, etc. but is so uncomfortable in her own skin.
Me - I guess I'm just too dumb to care what people think about me for the most part :P If that's "dumb" there sure are a whole lot of us that belong to the same club
