A board hitting your H on the head is the least thing needed to knock some sense into him. It obviously didn't do any good. Sorry.
And the divorce being final with a set date -- I'm so sorry for that too. And yet he has the audacity and the sheer nerve to think he can still expect sex from you? What a maroon! (I so much want to say more but I'm trying to watch my tongue.)
Just remind him this is what he wanted. Consequences suck.
Wow.. that is fast on the D process. Mine has been in process for 10 months now. Sad to say but I am sooo ready for it to be over..
btw - I turned down sex last week and this week as well.. WTH is up with these guys?? In my case, I'm sure the wonderful ow would LOOOOVE to know about it!
What a weird dynamic. I'd kinda thank him for taking the hit for the board.. that sounded like it hurt. Goodness knows I say the darndest things when I get hurt (and it's my own fault).
Gypsy, he finally apologized for his needless rant 2 days later and I accepted. I also thanked him for helping around the house and was sorry he got hurt. Tiff over.
Odd odd weekend here.
My neighbor/friend had no AC so they spent the weekend with us. Luckily she is a pediatrician because my sweet D4 got conked in the eyebrow with a play phone and received 3 stitches while sitting in our kitchen. She was a brave little girl and now loves showing everyone her boo-boo.
H was around during the 'wound closing' (took both of us to hold her down for a moment, during her numbing shot. OUCH). We teamed up perfectly like we always have to help D4 feel better. He also stayed and ate dinner with us (my friend's H and my H have always been close, except my H has pushed him away all summer) and caught up with his friend on the patio.
All in all, great weekend with the girls. They are loving that our neighbors are staying with us til Monday!
Crazy stormy winds today. Getting 5-7 inches of rain in about 6 hours. Drive to work was wet.
lwb, I cant believe how strong you are....when my STBXH does things around the house or just hangs out I used to think "Oh my god, he is wanting to be with me. Maybe he is coming around!!!" Now I just think when is he going to leave. Funny how that detaching thing works. I cant believe your H still thinks that you are a friends with benefits sitch. I am so proud of you for saying no. Is he still with his OW?
I remember a conversation we had a few months ago about some of the trigger places that he used to go to with OW on the landing. If you ever need a buddy to go and drink it up with you to turn these places into your new spots let me know. It really helped me to know that I can have a great time there as well.
Sorry about D, but sounds like she was in good hands. Thanks for checking in on me as well. Take care.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
OW? Who the heck knows. I know he calls her because...DER...he uses my cordless phone and I always use the redial search list to call neighbors. I see her number a la *67 in front of it. FOOL. I don't care if he is seeing her anymore. Don't even mention the calls to him (HUGE 180 for me). It'll hurt if they end up back together, but just stay away from MY kids, and I'll survive it.
If they are seeing each other and I have concrete proof, you can bet I'll tattle to OW's H. He is fully trusting her actions at this point. But I don't expect him to tell me, since my H owes me nothing at this point. But I bet OW's H would still call me. So, if they are seeing each other, I am sure its super under cover. Blecky. Fools.
I am SOOO at that point where I just want H to GO from the house! OMG totally. To the point where I will say "You headin' out soon?". hee! He is at the house for selfish reasons: comfort and to see the kids (doesn't want to feel the pain of that part of separation just yet, I suppose). And pure laziness.
I will sure take you up on the offer for The Landing. I am over my trigger spots big time, but still would love to drink it up for ANY reason!!!
I think that when we can look at our STBX and think "will you just go already" we are in a good spot for us. I still have moments when there is pain, that will take time to get over, but I can see the hope for a new life at the end of the tunnel.
Its funny, I no longer care about my STBXH being with OW. I just do not want someone who has such low morals being around my S. But since my STBXH keeps saying that they are not in a relationship, then I dont have to wory about it quite yet. Its funny, I could handle any other woman in his life at this point, just not the one who helped break up my M. Oh well, nothing I can do about it.
I have not been to Lumiere Place yet. I have heard good things also. Lets make a date and go. We can tear the place up and have some really great cocktails! Just let me know when.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
