I didn't do it either...so it isn't a criticism. Move on to someone you can make a difference with. There are so many here. Some newbie isn't getting attention because we're involved in this drama.
I completely understand the need to 'take a stand' for what you believe in. Tomorrow I plan to focus on the newbies.
I just saw all the drama on some other thread. I wanted to post there, but a)it was locked and b) I said I would no longer post to the person in question.
It does seem very plain that people with more drama seem to get lots of traffic, and those that actually try to listen and apply DB get very little. Or those that post the first time without a very interesting story, or with bad grammar. Why do we waste so much time on someone who clearly is here for some other reason than to restore a marriage? Honestly, I stopped looking for LPs thread because I found myself, for maybe the first time, actually hoping for the WAWs sake that she'd avoid a LBS like the plague. I couldn't wish for a reconciliation because the LBS wouldn't even try to see his faults. I felt like a bad person...so I went to post to people that did want to make the effort to save their marriage.
I sometimes question whether some of these people that post (ie DNQ, LP), aren't some sort of elaborate game...maybe a way to assess whether we, as DBers, have figured out a way to "do something different" and monitor for results when it comes to other people. I feel like this is a study and we are the guinea pigs.
But, I'm just rambling I guess. Ta
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
