Just ordered the book. I look forward to reading it. I'll let you know my thoughts.
I'm amazed you rememebred about my surgery. I'm okay. They found "pre" cancer cells so I am on tomoxifen for 5 years. Six months down!
Deanna is doing really well. I actually went down and stayed with her when H left in January. She's a great role model for me. Things look good for her. Like anyone there are still a few rough spots but on a whole she's good.
I wondered where you had gone. Glad to hear things are coming together for you and your M. Not so for me, unfortunately. I will check in from time to time to see how you are doing.
Hi Rjj, Is your H still living at his parents house??
Dotto,
My husband got so angry at me that I thought the veins in his neck would burst from screaming. He was a very passive person and he held it all in then he exploded at me. He would scream and yell at the kids also and then leave the house with them crying daddy please stay.
It seems like a million years ago in a way as his good attitude continues. We spent the weekend together. Friday I saw Bruce Springsteen and he called me to see if I was going to sleep home. Now that we are sleeping together I don't think he can handle me dating.
On Saturday night we went out to dinner with his friends and I asked him to be my husband for the night and handed him his ring which has been off for the past year. He said yes and put it on. I did find out that he put it back in his jewelery box which hurts but hey when he is ready then he is ready. We spent all day Sunday and Sunday night together.. He talks about our house and doing this or that. He worked on the house also. When he was in his crisis he didn't lift a finger. The kids really wanted him to stay . It is uncomfortable for me when he goes but I am also used to being alone???
The baby is getting antsy so I will write back soon.
Yes, my H is still at his parents' place. He says he can't afford to move out until I buy him out on the house. But he is spending money like there's no tomorrow. Every time I see him he's in trendy new clothes. He's out all the time, and went to FLA for two weeks in May. Not sure who with, but I can only imagine. Anyway, not much has changed for me. I am still shaking my head wondering where the wonderful guy I married went. I have a thread in the Separated forum, in case you want to drop by.
It was nice your H put his ring back on, even temporarily. I think he is wise to move slowly, and you're right - he'll let you know when he is ready. It is so great to hear a story where things turn back in the right direction!
Hi Abby- I have been reading your posts about your wonderful progress! That is wonderful! Keep up the great work. It soulnds like you have the detaching down and you have shown great patience. I know I struggle with these issues.
I would like to ask a question if you don't mind. You said your H was in a MLC and you have been seperated for 1 year. How long before the separation did, if any, MLC symptoms apear?
Thanks for the wonderful posts and keep us updated! It is great to hear a positive sucess and we all learn from your story. Water
My H left last August. From mid June on he started to really act weird. Detach from me. That July he didn't want to have sex. We went on a family vacation at the end of July and it was AWFUL. He had become the alien.
Prior to the total breakdown it was like walking on eggshells around him for maybe 6 months prior. I got pregnant with our third and it really put him over the edge. I knew he didn't want anymore but I didn't care.... I always thought I could do whatever I wanted and he would never ever leave me. He is a very traditional, dependable kind of a guy. His stability is what attracted me to him.
Anyway when his law practice started to do poorly he just couldn't take the pressure anymore and he wasn't communicating with me. I tried to make things fun but he was already slipping away from me. In retrospect I can see that now.
