I have not checked on you for awhile, sorry to see things have gone south.My situation is getting closer to the end, unfortunately.My faith is not moved though.hang in there John.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
What really gets me is that for eight years, my W was the most appreciative and giving person I have ever known (mind you I don't think too many people would have done the things I have done for her). The beauty of it is that all I had to do was be myself and it was wonderful. Something happened on the way to the forum....
John I posted this on your other thread in piecing before I saw that you moved.
god John you just described my sitch to a T.I'm sorry you are where you are buddy.
I will tell you this. Detachment is a wonderful thing John. I am in my own place. Yes, I miss my D2 ver y much but the time I have with her is so much sweeter.
and yes..I know about the Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome. I feel that is me. I'm lookin got change that. It's time for Mike to finish first.
OK John, I caught up. I'm glad you still have your sense of humor. I have no advice to offer because it seems you are on the correct path. Hang in there and come by the party place when you get a chance.
It's free drinks all the time in that place. The alcohol kills the pain.
Ok....I know it's a little eearly but where is the open bar? M, thanks for dropping by....I admire your no nonsense style and try to keep up with your sitch. Everybody seems to be spread out all over the place and I sometimes loose track of folks(like Craig 54). Craig, when I read your post last night I actually felt like I was reconnecting with an old friend. I am sorry that you are close to divorce. One part of me thinks that divorce is just a piece of papaer and we do not know what the future holds for you and W.....another part of me thinks you are not detached yet and maybe this will help you. Keep the faith my friend.
I have been doing quite a bit of cyber moving lately. I'll hang out over here for a while and when the big D goes down, I will make my way over there.
I am not sure my advice would have changed anything with your M. It may have helped you detach a little quicker. We all do what we are comfortable with at the time. No need to feel stupid...in retrospect I should have gotten out after I found out my W lied to me about her whereabouts for a week. I would have found John again by now. By the way John is not that far away....he should be back soon. Yes things went south with my sitch but i have my health, D7, my folks are still healthy, a good circle of friends (which I need to reconnect with)and my apt. is ok......what else do i need...maybe a little human "contact" but that will come.
Whenever you decide to cyber move again, just leave a forwarding address and we will find you. Surviving the Big D does seem to have a large liquor cabinet.
Guys guys, i don't drink anymore....i don't drink any less either! Call me crazy but W seems to call more and more often....work related of course....WEIRD....don't worry ..... don't even think about it.
I am not surprised the W is calling more and showing renewed interest, even if the calls are about "work"...
This is what happened before. She has you, she gets restless, you move away, she gets interested, she has you back, she is happy, then restless, then you back away and she is interested....
The question is, how many times will the cycle continue? As I think you would say, "what's in it for you" to keep doing the dance?
I guess I would say the better the two of you interact, the better for D7. So I am glad you can talk to each other frequently, and for now I would leave it at that. DB or no DB, I think the burden is on her to make it anything else....
Enjoy your Friday. We are getting soaked with rain. Can't imagine how the people in Texas will feel this afternoon/overnight....I think I will be glued to the Weather Channel.
Oh yeah, H is in Toronto. Is that near you? (I am Canada-ignorant!)
