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Such a fine line to walk, making sure they have enough Daddy time, but also keep it balanced with the stable home: yours!!!

So far we've been doing that too. When my H came back from vacation and wanted the kids for 2 days I was fine with that. I don't know how he made it through 9 days without them, but he is different from me. My L is just worried he is upping his time with them to reduce child custody or something like that it sounded. He is wanting extra hours now that we are getting closer to the actual D hearing. If it was anyone normal, I would love to be 100% flexible. But I really don't like the idea of the kids staying at his apt. all day, not homeschooling (b/c he wouldn't do that), and they are 2 guys who don't really have anything for the kids there, and H would be working anyway so it seems really pointless unless his L maybe told him to increase his time with them for whatever reason.

Well, I was making dinner when H got here and he purposely was avoiding me went into another room and then was giving me the silent treatment. Said not one word to me. When I first saw him though I said a friendly "hi" (can't stop myself) but I just went around doing my own thing cooking and then working out. And I have dreams that we can still maintain friendship after this, which I think at this point is just a dream not reality!!! Really though I think the silent treatment was fine for me (I was dreading yelling & arguing) so I was laughing inside kind of at his "punishment" for me. Glad the night is over though!!! Karen

Thanks you guys! I don't know how I would make it without you!!!

Yeah, oh and I forgot to say that H also seemed to give the kids the silent treatment too tonight! I was around a little and didn't hear him talk much at all to the kids either. He's not much of a talker to us, but still seemed not to be talking to them either. Maybe he was too upset or something.

Ok, this is weird, and maybe I just am noticing this b/c I'm going through divorce but everyone I meet lately is divorced. And it turns out their first marriage was a cheater (guy or girl) and they divorced, and then remarried to a nice person and are now really happy.

The 2 main people I was volunteering with today were married before and yep, to cheaters, and then have met each other and are really happy. The W was telling me her story and she really loves her current H. I mean this happens to me almost every day! Maybe it's just that I notice this more, but still today it occurred to me maybe God is trying to tell me something? And you know I have to be told a bunch of times before I pick stuff up sometimes!!! Karen

I believe its true, karen. In my line of work, I meet different people everyday.

More and more people ARE divorcing. I especially pick the brains of the ladies I meet. Usually the same story. A lot of verbal, emotional, or sometimes physical abuse. I hear a lot of it. Knowing all the guys that are on here too, I have to think sometimes that some of them might be telling a story. I can just imagine what MY wife is telling people she meets about me or us. When I talk to some of the men, they don't usually talk too much about it.

But yes, I see it more and more.