Poet, its ok honey. Get the truck back and park it there. Say no more about it. You said your peace. Ok. Now go back to dark. You've been doing good and its making him wonder what is up.
It seems he is using this, "we'll go ahead and file" to control and intimidate you.
Not saying anything more about it and just getting the truck back is the right thing to do now.
And if he keeps calling you at work, be sure to mention it to your attorney. It is her job to protect you. He can't harass you just because he gets upset.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Poet, its ok honey. Get the truck back and park it there. Say no more about it. You said your peace. Ok. Now go back to dark. You've been doing good and its making him wonder what is up.
It seems he is using this, "we'll go ahead and file" to control and intimidate you.
Not saying anything more about it and just getting the truck back is the right thing to do now.
And if he keeps calling you at work, be sure to mention it to your attorney. It is her job to protect you. He can't harass you just because he gets upset.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
He is angry.... duh! And you have figured out that you can't do anything about that, so that's a good step. The trick is to detach yourself from his anger. Try not to let it drag you down. Let him be, as much as you can.
I get the feeling that he wants to be in total control. Of you, the situation, everything. I haven't done a very good job of keeping up with your situation, has he always been like this? Anyway, I think the best thing for you is to let him do whatever he is going to do, while you do what is best to protect yourself. Whether that is to settle, or let him file, I don't know. Make sure you get good legal advice there, and follow it. He will get angry, in any case, but you can't control that.
Poet the sheriff will not go to anyone at gunpoint about the truck
he is trying to get your goat
move your goat
Yep!
I think he would have a hard time claiming the truck was stolen, and getting anyone arrested. "Hello, Sheriff.... my wife loaned our truck to some friends, can you go arrest them?"
And, wouldn't the sheriff ask you where it was first. Very easy to explain it is marital property, you both own it, you loaned to a friend. He simply can't keep calling you at work and upsetting you. I would seriously like to be let loose on him with a 2x4 some time.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
I get the feeling that he wants to be in total control. Of you, the situation, everything. I haven't done a very good job of keeping up with your situation, has he always been like this?
Yes, until I started fighting back. But this is not what I'm about anymore. I am all about forgiveness now. I'm dropping the rope and working on poet's new *self.* I'm determined to carry on in my journey.
I think that control freaks don't like it when their partners actually turn out to be individuals. Makes things a bit of a mess, I think. Because you have to be an individual, they have to figure out how to adjust to that. In the meantime, they get really angry!
Just checking in on you. Seems like your H is spiralling out of control at the moment. Stop answering the phone. And I was going to post what the others before me have said - the truck is marital property - until there is a settlement - do as you wish. Personally, I wouldn't rile him but the whole sherrif at gunpoint thing is ridiculous. That is harrassment and some of the other accusations border on verbal abuse. Leave it alone.
Document the things he says that are abusive or threatening as you may have to tell your attorney and/or police (if it comes to that). Get the advice from your attorney about his access to your home. He should be doing the laundry in the laundromat like everyone else living in a camper does - absolutely NOT IN YOUR HOME! He is a control freak and he is trying to upset you and keep a hold of everything. That is emotional abuse.
Honey, you do not owe him answers right now so GO DARK. Don't text. Don't phone. Don't leave notes. Let him flap in the breeze - this is not the worst thing for him right now.
Personally - who would want to be with him the way he is. And as far as a possible OW - do not ask. He will only lie to you anyway. Let it go.
I know this is tough. It is close to impossible sometimes NOT to react (just ask me - I failed miserably), but this is what you need to do.
