OMG I AM SO HAPPY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED!!! I really like how you left him the tickets, he called you right away and said you had to go with him, and the date at the restaurant!
that is SO funny about you being picky about the restaurant and then correcting yourself. I am also very picky about restaurants. I know my B told me MANY TIMES (and I didn't get it until... yesterday or something) that it wasn't about the food or the place, it was about spending time together. Do you think your H is like that with eating out? Who knows maybe he has some seduction plan dependent on this seemingly un-special restaurant?
what you just posted reminded me of my horoscope this week from freewillastrology.com. I don't think you're a virgo but maybe the image applies anyway: Pregnant giraffes give birth standing up. Babies arrive in their new environment with a jolt, hitting the ground after plummeting six feet. Although they were fairly safe before, upon leaving the womb they are in danger of being preyed upon by animals like leopards and hyenas, which wouldn't dare attack their giant mothers. I'm thinking there's a resemblance between the newborn giraffes and a new project you're working on, Virgo. Its initial splash into the world may be a bit rocky and fraught with dicey challenges. But I'm here to say that if you're a vigilant caretaker in the early going, it will grow to maturity.
the way I choose to interpret it is my heart is the baby giraffe or the project of being more open hearted and less controlling is the baby giraffe
I am so proud of you and excited for you!!!
thank you SO MUCH for all of your VERY thought-provoking questions and ideas on my thread!!!
I'm wondering... could you skip the fundraising dinner to go with H to the game? what if he really can't find someone else to go with? I remember you wrote a while back that guys like to win attention AWAY from whatever their woman is doing. So for him to "steal" you away from something else you had planned might help him feel good?
Just a crazy thought. It is just a minor detail!
thanks so much for your feedback on my thread today!
I'm so happy that H called and that you have a date on Sunday. I think it was really nice of him to ask you to go with him, and I'm inclined to agree with T about you going with him to the game. Let him win you from another event- it'll boost his confidence a bit (he sounds as though he's lacking some to me).
Hi T! Love the quote about baby giraffes - very cute! Thanks also for being so excited for me, it means a lot.
Hi OD! Thanks for posting too.
On Monday H texted me to say 'thank you so much for the tickets, I cant believe you got them and you're not even coming mwha'. I think the mwha is a kiss, - its a new thing and I've got two of them lately.
I sent him a text reassuring him that I would love to go if I didnt have other plans, and maybe we could go to another game together. He rang me after I sent the text, and he is SOOOO excited, its so cute. Its a very important game so he has plenty of friends that would happily go with him. He spent about 10 minutes discussing the pros and cons of taking certain friends with him. So I think I played that well. He was a bit curious about the fundraising dinner and who might be going (yay!). All good signs I think.
Have been thinking that my crash on the weekend is probably about rejection. Honestly it hurt as much as when he left - so I'm transferring meaning from that event into something very innocent. Hopefully now that I recognise that for what it is it wont happen again.
I've ordered some more books of Michelles and also the passionate marriage. Am still thinking about the coaching.... its so blooming expensive especially if I have to pay for the phone call as well.
so, so, so, so so exciting!!!! WAY TO GO GIRL!!! I'm so glad he has so many friends who would want to go he had to discuss the pros and cons with you!! I love hearing about his excitement (so hot) and the "mwha"s!!!! hooooorrayyyyy!!!
thank you so much for all your help on my thread. you are seriously a treasure!
can't WAIT to hear what you think of passionate marriage!!!
very interesting insight you had into rejection being transferred into something innocent.
That's so great that H discussed the pros and cons of different friends with you- very close and intimate thing to do. I LOVE it!
You're such a babe in total control, Essie, and I love how H is responding to it. I love the way you've reflected on your weekend crash. Very insightful, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed it doesn't happen again.
Which of Michelle's books did you get? I have CYL and GTTTMYL as well as DR. All excellent!
Just to let you know the weekend went really well:
H called and texted me lots (I'm replying to every 2nd one). Very excited about the rugby game. On Saturday he came over to give me a washing machine and I just happened to be getting dressed and only had a towel on (wink!) but makeup and hair looking good (well timed on my part!). Had a very passionate kiss, but I had to cut it short so I could keep getting ready to go out. The fundraising dinner went well for me, H's team won the rugby - he sent me lots of texts and said a number of times that he wished I was with him at the rugby.
Today was H's birthday and we had breakfast together - very nice. Probably the most exciting part was that he was telling me that he is planning a reunion with all his cousins in March next year, and he very casually said that I should come too, or that he would like me to come, or to keep the dates free (I cant really remember what he actually said, but that was the general gist). When we got back to my place there was a fair amount of kissing and he carried me to the bed.... but I sort of wiggled out of it, which I think is the right thing to do... not sure.... anyway it was very nice. And there is a lot of anticipation in the air. I'm trying to be very careful not to reject him, but to think of other reasons why the timing might not be quite right... (mum and dad have a house on the same property as mine, they rarely stay there, but happened to be around today doing some gardening, so there was every chance that they could walk in on us... we joked about it)
Watch this space!
PS I ordered SSM (although clearly we are sexually attracted to each other, I feel like he wants what he cant have) and the one about how to change a man without nagging.
My goal is still for him to 'date' me outside of Sundays when he visits next door neighbour for wakeboarding. Next Sunday I'm busy all day, so fingers crossed he will make a plan for another time.
I am SO happy that the weekend went well and that H is pursuing you and sending texts. I love that he picked up up and carried you to bed- how passionate!
You're doing everything right. I hope you enjoy 'change your man'. I think it's a good one for in a R, which you definitely seem to be. Future plans for March- that's so positive and exciting!
Essie, I am impressed. I am so happy for you that things seem to finally turn around. You sound so in control and confident I bet he is wondering WTH did he ever risk loosing you... Keep it up, how is that possum holding? K
or the project of being more open hearted and less controlling is the baby giraffe