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I would definitely agree with that - but if she wants it and you do not, I would NEVER bring it up. FWIW

I completely agree.

And I like "I'm sorry you're hurting."

That you don't want a divorce, and that you are there for her, is implied, she knows it, and it's shown in your actions. To SAY any of those things is pursuing and needy/grabby.

BC, her move back toward you is still all about HER at this point -- her rejection by OM and her need to be comforted and rescued from the message she's created. Is it NOT likely about you yet.

So . . . comfort, yes. Rescue, no.

Puppy

I wouldn't say anything....just be there for her and let her come to you. She may not be overly receptive to that statement yet just give it time.

Good stuff. And good to see you again PDT. If I don't hear from you again for awhile have a good weekend and stay out of harms way

I have no idea how hard it would be to tell my wife that I got someone else pregnant. She is probably shocked that I responded the way I did.

BC

Save yourself the headache - do not try to figure out what she is thinking. She is reeling as well but you CANNOT rescue her or save her from herself. Show you care by actions.

hard. Very hard. You see it is much harder to GAL now that I know she has a baby growing inside of her. Very protective of her without coming out and saying it to her

I think my wife is either afraid to ask me to help raise the baby, or doesn't want me to.

It is still early. I think she's less than a month along. I am having trouble GAL when everytime I see her or my son or her family I am reminded of all this.

the "all this" I refer to isn't the fact that my wife is pregnant.

just the fact that I got the papers and she still doesn't want to make things work.

I am plenty sure she is more worried about being married to someone, pregnant by someone else who blew her off.

I feel so bad and just want her to come to me. I WANT to rescue her, but I know its absolutely wrong. so is coming back to me just because she's pregnant and alone.

I know God doesn't punish people like this, and she brought this on herself, but I feel like God is testing me. how, i don't know.

puppy said her reaching to me for comfort ismt about me yet......how will I know when it is ?