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When you say(hopefully not do) things like that, you deserve to be more than disrespected. Shoving something in someones face, or even talking about it. You may as well $#!t on them.
Put it this way, it's 20 years in the future.
You're D's husband tells you that he should shove a grapefruit in your D's face. What do you do?

Ok, phoenyx... Act loving... take it all. I think I have changed allot of that.

The clingy was just the last couple of days.

She even said I texted her too much. Yes because the last couple of days I was hammering her.

I told her I didn't want the cell phone fixed. Because she uses it as a tool. She said I don't even use it. I said yeah right, you know what you are doing, hiding behind your text. Texting me a twenty to 11 for favors. Then she said I text her too much.

I said that is because I miss you. And she drove away....

Yeah another screw up because I said I missed her... I said do you know what that feels like. DO you? She didn't have a response.

She doesn't have a response for too much of anything, because she knows she is wrong. And your right, she wants me to snap, so that she can say, look see how he acts. Throws a dagger and then runs to safety. She did it today.

I picked the kids up. She said she wanted to be alone at the store for an hour. I told her with the children you do not have that luxury. Your daughter wants to be with you after work. It's about them, not about you. Then she rolled her eyes, and hurry up and went in the store. Because pig girl was in there. Doing piggy things I suppose. She could run in there and say did you hear what he said... Then they could both bash me.

Whatever it's true. As long as the validating pig girl is in her corner with her all day. I don't have a chance in hell. I believe she even did it during the marriage. She talked to her on the phone all the time, and the girl is such a man hater my wife acted on it with me.

It's like talking about a TV show. You don't watch it until you have somebody to talk about it.

I think it would be healthy for you to react as little as possible. Initiate no contact, take a break. Not giving up, but chilling. Focusing on you and your children. She isn't going anywhere, you probably have a better chance of this working out if you take a break/take a breath. Let some emotion drain. Trust me I know, as sick as it sounds, that negative emotion feels like it's better than none at all. It's still connection and it feels better than the idea of having no connection emotionally. But trust me, it's not good. The outcome isn't good if you don't fix yourself. I know you say you're fine, as did I. But.... Does your W see you as fine? Are you really fine. I would never tell you to quit or "give up". You would do you all a favor to take a break and recharge. As the man, the leader, you need to be as strong as you possibly can. Maybe a break from the emotion(a little detaching) would allow you to see something you haven't seen.

Cut the grapefruit in half for him. She probally deserved it. Better a grapefruit than a bat or something. Cagney did that to Clake. Same thing her Dad told me when I asked to marry his daughter.

Two rules... She can't come back. and two is she gets out of line back hand her, because she can be a real B.

You're f'ng kidding me. Right?


One rule... Be like Jesus, not an @$$ hole that disrespects his own daughter.

I was doing better with that. Went weeks without really talking to her. Not touching her and it sucked. Then I was getting better at the fact that she wanted nothing to do with me. Then I had that damn dream. That's why I got all emotional and clingy again.

I mean I was cleaning two weeks ago and I found a bunch of her hair. I put it in some paper and carry it in my wallet, because that is all I have. The rest is crumbs...

Phil, you need a break. I'm sorry, but you aren't healthy. The best thing that you can do for your W, is to get strong. So when this works out, you can carry her in her regrets.

I wonder did your wife grow up to marry a man that's just like her Daddy?

I hope not.

K I was hoping I wasn't the only one that had a problem wit that.

I retyped that post 6 times to make a nice version.



Get some sleep, Phil.