Floyd, I am the last person who would suggest pushing a hand, but you need to with her. I am worried that she is playing you. I don't want you to get hurt anymore than you have been, and she really does need to make a decision and quit leaning on you for support in her other R. I just find that completely unfair to you. I am not exactly sure how you have put up w/ it, it would kill me if my H started discussing someone else w/ me. It is exactly the reason I won't discuss my M w/ XH, because it is just not fair. I think you have to stop it until she makes a decision, period. IMHO, you have to tell her until she makes a decision, she cannot call you, unless the first words are I have made a decision...
(((Floyd)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I'm gonna heartily agree with Lola here. No more contact. Idle chit chat and complaining about Aaron is NOT what you are there for.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I agree, and I thought that she had come to a decision when we talked again last night, but she hadn't. That's why I've decided to bring it up first thing, and cut the convo off if she hasn't made a move yet. I don't think she will do anything until I show her that I'm not playing around anymore.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
Good deal. I just think it is a little self preservation. It is nice that she is rethinking, but give her reason to step it up a bit. And if she can't do that, then you deserve much better. Like I said before, you are a great guy and would be a good catch.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hey Floyd (won't let you know if I have the Jersey accent....fine!!!!) sounds like you know in your head what you have to do, you just need to enforce it!! I completly agree with Lola.......YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN LIMBO LAND!!!
I've had an exciting day today. Well, not really, but it started out that way. My youngest son threw up in the car this morning on the way to school. So I kept him home today. Cleaning it up was enjoyable, let me tell ya!
I did get a text from XGF today around 10 am. It said, "Aaron is still here, but my parents are gone for two days. Woo Hoo!!!"
I decided to just ignore it. I don't feel like dealing with it today.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
hi Floyd...I don't think I'd have wanted to be in your shoes this morning...yuck!
I don't think that text needed to have been answered anyway since it appears that she's just trying to engage you in endless convos. I mean who cares if Aaron is still there or her parents are out of town???? Not you right?
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
