It is a constant up and down........take it all one day at a time. I see my H still in his ups and downs, but I also see the stress coming on again and I think I know why but it is not my problem.
You just take good care of yourself and your daughter right now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yep, doing just that. Nothing else I can do but that really. We played her Wii last night and had a blast! I think I'll keep doing that to get some activity at night while I'm waiting to find a good pair of work out shoes!
I know, it is frustrating but you will do okay. We all have our ups and downs, that's for sure.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Man dar! I just caught up with your thread! You know, these guys try to hide stuff from us, but I really think they let the kids see things and leave it up to the kids to tell us because they are just too chicken to do it!!
I know we have no control over what they do with our kids when they have them. As long as they arent in danger there is nothing we can do about it, but it still hurts like H@ll!
Just take control of the situation! I told my H tonight to NOT TEXT ME ANYMORE!!
Now I just have to stick to my end! These men and their OW will get what they deserve. God may let them be happy for a little while, but it wont last!
Hang in there Dar! I need your support and I am here to offer mine to you!!!
Last edited by kissak; 09/03/0810:27 PM.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
That's what I'm saying Glam! Just when I thought things were looking up! Grrr!!!! Why play with my heart this whole time?!?!?!?!
Dar, he is in a state of confusion. My H did lots of the same things, and then would tell me that he didn't want to "hurt my feelings." Cuz lying and me finding out doesn't hurt.
Originally Posted By: kissak
These men and their OW will get what they deserve. God may let them be happy for a little while, but it wont last!
I'm watching the slow demise of "the fantasy" in my H's case. Its not pretty.
Just take care of you and your D. Your H will have to figure it out on his own, one way or the other. No expectations. Its just easier that way. ((((Hugs))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
just concentrate on you and your d and let him stew alone.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Okay, I have to confess something and I hope I don't disgust you all as much as I disgust myself right now.
H was being a HUGE jerk last night. There's been alot going on at my place where someone keeps coming by when I'm out with the dog, or leaving notes for me and has egged my apartment at one point. When this person came by, he flat out told said "are you darboyd5?" I told him I am and he said "leave H alone. He doesn't want you and he's happy where he's at!" and then the guy left. H told me to go to the police since he doesn't know this person. I didn't until after the house was egged. I'm waiting for them to catch this guy at this point.
Well, yesterday I told H they caught him and H's name was all over the guy's statement. I lied about this just to get a reaction from H to see if he cares. Now he wants the police report and all that shows his name. I have to confess to H that I lied and I know this will be his out. He will file for D for sure.
I'm very sorry to you all and I hope you understand that I had a desperate moment and wanted a reaction from H and nothing more.
Did ow put this guy up to it??? It sounds kind of fishy to me.
If you have the name of the guy, I would keep that to myself also.
Something does not add up.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H swears up and down that he doesn't know who's doing this to me. But yea, he swore up and down that there isn't OW either....still is saying that too! Geez! But I'll never know until the police catch this person.
