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He did know your h does not live with you, so that tells me right there this guy either knows your husband or is very familiar with an acquaintance of his.

That's what I've told H too. He says he doesn't know this guy or anyone that drives this kind of car.

I'm just more sorry about lying to H about the guy being caught and saying it was H. H said that he wouldn't doubt if his dad has someone doing this....his dad is the type of person that would do this too since he offered H A LOT of money NOT to marry me! I think this lie from me....the only lie....will be the end though. H will use this as his way to D.

I emailed H letting him know and apologized for lying. I have never lied to him about anything before. I hope he understands it was out of pure desperation. I emailed him a couple hours ago and he read it but never replied. I'd like to email him again to see how mad he is, but I don't think I want to do that.

I guess I might be forgiven by H? He said he's not pissed, just surprised. I still feel bad about it, but I'm glad it wasn't the end all of this. Who knows though, he can change at the drop of a dime.

Dar its good that you came clean. I think we have all said or did something to get a response.

The problem is you look bad in the end and you usually don't get the response you were looking for or it backfires.

GG, I had to come clean about that. I felt terrible. I don't lie, I hate that he lies, and it drove me mad! He was sooo mad that someone used his name and I felt terrible. I think he was more mad about his name being used than the person messing with me, so yea, I didn't get the reaction I was hoping for. But I'm glad I came clean. He didn't call me last night like he said he would, but I'm leaving him alone. I have to for my own sanity.

dar: all you can do is keep on going. you let him know what you did and it is time to look past that. i hope this is the end of whatever is going on. you need a break right now and this is probably good that you did not hear from him lastnight.

Dar step away you are too close. Let him be for now even if that means you hear from him very little. He needs to process all that is going on. This takes time lots of it.

GG, I'm too close to what?

You are too close to the situation. Meaning you get dragged in, respond too emotionally, react to all that your h does.

When you step away and are not involved for now you will be more at peace with yourself and what is going on. Anything your h does will not affect you.